We like to search for those final happy destinations in life. You know, the ones that will finally make us feel relieved and satisfied. We work so hard on a project, exams, a relationship, or our health while focusing on the end result which is that light at the end of the tunnel. Or perhaps it’s a separation or divorce that turns your world upside down. The truth is, we crave that light, it’s all we can think about to help motivate us to move forward because in our minds we believe the moment we can see that light, the difficult situation will end. You say “When all this is over I can finally relax and be happy.”
Is that really true? Maybe…to an extent.
Is it possible to be happy right now while you are in that long, dark tunnel? Tunnels are scary, cold, intimidating places. You are probably wondering how can one be happy in such a depressing place? Sometimes we miss the boat by going in alone and limiting our vision on the end result when we could be using some light and support to navigate that tunnel.
Little moments in life are worth celebrating just as much as the big ones. By having something to look forward to like meeting a friend for coffee, scheduling a Skype call from someone who is important to you, reading uplifting blogs that give your life meaning, planning a mini vacation or just eating your favourite food with your kids all represent little pot lights in your tunnel. Each friend, family member or supportive person is worth a light in your tunnel. The more positive people and moments you have creates more support in your situation. And the brighter your environment is, the more tolerable and comfortable the situation will be, therefore you will begin to feel happier and even more relaxed. You need these lights to help you cope better. It’s time to celebrate coping better because you are doing the best you can and every action step counts.
If something really great happens to you that represents a chandelier! It’s time to celebrate again.
Be grateful for everything you have and see how many colored lights appear. By shifting your perspective, the tunnel is now an illuminating space that transformed from unpleasant to beautiful. Light replaces darkness the same way love replaces fear.
If you are going through a difficult time right now, don’t wait until it’s over to celebrate all your milestones you are achieving along the way. You could be waiting months or years before you see that light at the end of the tunnel. Why would you want to deprive yourself that way? Do it now because you’re worth it.
Take comfort along the way by always having something to look forward to with the people who care for you. Those who you know well and those whom you’ve never met before but seem to cause a positive ripple effect in your life. Notice the happy little surprises that pop up. These are your lights that will decorate your life and lead you out of the tunnel because you have the right to be happy now.
Celebrating a win doesn’t mean you need to do something outrageous or expensive, just be kind to yourself. If that seems difficult, ask yourself “What would I buy my 10 year old self right now that would make me happy?” or “What have I wanted to do but have been putting it off?” Maybe the answers to both questions are chocolate and a massage?
Sounds good to me…that’s a win-win.
P.S….All my gratitude to the lights and chandeliers in my tunnel. You are amazing!