Dealing with change and finding the positive silver lining hidden within our experiences are tough life lessons to be learned. It sounds pretty straight forward but when you are really in it, it takes every ounce of energy and focus to actually do it. Easier said than done right? Sometimes it feels like these life lessons and difficult decisions are being launched like tennis balls out of a cannon one after the other with no break in between to catch our breath while we use our racquet as a shield.
From what I have seen with many people, myself included, letting go or surrendering to what is can be the hardest life lesson to swallow because it’s scary and unknown. Should I stay or should I go? Should I control the situation or just accept it as it is? Will I choose to be a victim or a victor? We fight to hang on and we fight to let go. It’s that constant back and forth rally in our minds that keeps the Wimbledon inner game of tennis alive.
Is letting go giving up? Not at all, it’s actually quite the opposite.
Caroline Myss wrote something that shook me to my core when I read it and I will share it with you. When someone says “I want to get out of this circumstance, but I’m too afraid.” She is betraying everything in her heart. She’s making choices that are harming her and that’s why she’s hurting. Her intuition is trying to tell her that. When your life begins to harm you, know that you have taken a detour from your true path. You are no different from the people who hurt you. People know when they have betrayed themselves because the little voice inside says “You’re still with that person; why didn’t you leave?” Your intuition speaks the truth that you don’t want to hear. It also says “You’ve done everything you can so it’s time to let go and surrender.”
Wow. “I am no different from the people who hurt me.” That was a huge light bulb moment and reading that was enough to make me want to let go. It’s bad enough that someone or something is hurting you and by ignoring your own heart, you are hurting yourself on top of it. Double punishment hurts. I love Caroline Myss and her perspectives.
It’s been a tough match so far, that inner game of tennis is almost finished and silence is everywhere. What will your next move be? Time to focus, your opponent Fear is about to serve.
What a perfect opportunity to discover a new and unexpected strategy in your game. By releasing someone so they can be where they need to be, do what they want to do and be with whomever they want is actually an act of love and courage on your part. Trust and respect yourself and let them go. Let them be the destructive one, you be the kind one. In that exact moment, you become more peaceful and free and you create the much needed space in your life for bigger and better things to come flowing in. It leads you to the next. Ah, finally the silver lining; acceptance and happiness. And the crowd goes wild…
We all have our “stuff” we are dealing with but that doesn’t mean we can’t find our joy along the way. Even a caged bird can find something to sing about. And when you do find the courage to surrender to change and let go, you will fly like a free bird and think “why didn’t I do this sooner?” Not only that, the tennis balls will stop flying at you and you will have victoriously won the match.
Congratulations…Love always wins. At least at this game.
“The longest journey you will make in your life is from your head to your heart.” ~ Gary Zukav