We are all victims of circumstance but we have a choice of remaining in victim mode or stepping out of it and living our life. Sometimes we can see trouble coming and other times it catches us right off guard sending us into a downward spiral but either way, we need to decide if we want to be happy or not. Initially, it’s natural to feel great disappointment, hurt and grief but it’s not healthy to live there permanently.
Things happen, I’ve seen trouble coming and it has also knocked me off my feet, leaving my head swirling and my heart broken. However, I cannot and will not let that define me. When I read this quote, it was like I heard music and corks popping out of champagne bottles!
To me, darkness represents being deeply disappointed, the hard times, handling tough emotions, the struggle, the pain and even change. Everyone defines it differently depending on what they’re going through. When you think about it, if you try to navigate through the dark without any light, it’s very difficult to see where you’re going or what is right in front of you. You might bump into things, trip over something or even worse, stub your toe which only causes more pain. The other thing about darkness is that it seems to hide us well. Maybe people like the dark for that reason alone. They don’t want any help so they don’t want to be seen. The question comes when that same person endlessly criticizes or complains about their situation but doesn’t do anything to make it better; cursing the darkness. Or maybe they just want to be found by someone, be seen, heard and understood. After all, we all crave connection.
The simple act of shedding some light on the subject can change the entire space where darkness lives. You can see what and who is around you, what is ahead of you and that feeling of being on edge is less. It’s a more comforting, positive response, a new perspective. Igniting a spark inside you is an action step in moving forward because you are no longer thinking about making it better or wishing for it, you are making the effort and doing it. Lighting a candle could mean reading positive daily affirmations, finding activities that bring you joy and doing them as much as possible, practicing gratitude even in the dark moment, trying to find the hidden life lesson inside your situation or reaching out to your support system to help you and accepting their help. It can also mean stop denying and start feeling the pain because the only way out of it is through it. When you decide to do this, your mind shifts from controlling to allowing and your body shifts from stress to peace. It doesn’t magically disappear but it certainly becomes more manageable. Having an open mind and an open heart changes a negative into a positive with an intention to do so. Darkness is a wonderful teacher that helps us grow through personal development because without darkness there can’t be light.
All of our life’s tragedies big or small have their time and space for darkness. Just keep in mind that at some point, you will need to turn on a light to be able to see clearly instead of wishing it wasn’t so dark. It’s time to live in the joy zone.