Tony Robbins: The “Why Guy”


If you aren’t familiar with famous life coach Tony Robbins, allow me to introduce him to you.  He’s not a motivational speaker, he’s the “why guy.”  Why do we do the things we do?  What drives us?  What are your belief systems that prevent you from living a full life?  What does it take to get something done?  Some people just don’t have a strategy; they’re lost.  It’s not that they aren’t trying to achieve their goal, it’s just they’re moving in the wrong direction.  It’s like running east looking for a sunset and not being able to find it.

That person gets an A for effort but what they really need is a map.

It’s the weekend so time to relax, grab a coffee, sit back and take 20 minutes to listen to this why guy with the raspy fast talking voice and see what he has to say about how emotion is the driving force behind what we do.

*Warning…he does swear every now and then, but I will hold him accountable for that…

Have a great weekend,

Jen 🙂

It’s Finally Over


Her view was mostly of his back
He was far too busy to notice, especially her
When  pointed out, he walked away from her
Communication was his weakest link
The emotional abandonment was suffocating and humiliating for her
Being ignored was the worst empty feeling of all
She felt alone and excluded,  yet she was with him
The sting of emotional betrayal was overwhelming and nauseating
How could this be happening after everything she gave him
Gone was her independence and confidence during those years
Sadly her efforts to impress went unnoticed
Yet somehow he still benefited from the results
Her head hurt from banging it against the wall
Begging for his attention
She felt she didn’t exist and unimportant, at least with him
Schedules, impressions, ego were his priorities
Invitations elsewhere were taken with pleasure
Decided and enjoyed, leaving her behind
She felt she didn’t have a choice which took away her voice

Until one day a job opportunity came for her in a faraway land
An opportunity not just for her but for the family
To be treated like a queen and highly rewarded for all her hard work
He encouraged her to pursue this adventure
The spotlight had shifted from him to her
It was finally her turn to do more, have more
The law of divine compensation was at play
However, seething jealousy swept in
Robbed her of this happiness, this chance of a lifetime
What did he do?
He backed out, refusing this opportunity for himself
Advised her to go alone
His world was far too important to leave behind and support her in this quest
These foolish games were killing her and them
She was so tired of feeling alone
Betrayal came in many forms and shattered her heart one crack at a time
His jealousy and control were building daily over her

That’s when everything changed…
She realized this was not about her but all about him
Like all the other times he abandoned her

And then…. it happened, the day after Valentine’s

A hurling punch of ultimate betrayal slapped her across the face with brute force
Causing physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual harm to her body and soul
He took away Everything from her world
Her cracked heart was broken, bleeding and wailing
The invisible crown she wore fell, and crashed into a wall
Jewels she collected over the years shattered into a million pieces
Lifelessly falling to the floor,  she tried to pick them one by one
Screaming, reaching and crying a river of tears
Every act of control on his part felt like she was being strangled tighter and tighter
He was kicking her while she was down; the pain was excruciating
She was unable to get off this emotional roller coaster ride
And it was sucking the life out of her
Her world was rapidly spinning out of control into a downward tornado spiral
She knew this was the end but failed to realize
It was also her new beginning…

Gradually, she picked herself off the floor
Had no idea she was in the driver’s seat
She could finally break free and live her life the way it was intended
With people who care and make time for her in their busy schedule
And don’t take advantage of her good nature
Friends and family gathered round, carried her when she couldn’t walk
Resisted sleep all night until sunrise; stayed and talked with her
Buried the darkness when she needed the light
Spoke for her when she couldn’t speak
Listened when she finally found her voice and the words
Dried her tears when they wouldn’t stop flowing
Made her laugh and smile to cut through the pain
Encouraged her to shake and pound it out through exercise
Books, quotes and songs repaired her soul one phrase at a time
Hugs and virtual hugs meant everything to her
Friends and family became her strength, her lifeline, her everything
Standing by her side through every mind controlling appointment and conversation
Taking her shopping and moving her into her new palace
Helping to re-attach the shining jewels to her invisible crown
And wearing it like a boss knowing she’s worth it, dammit
While carrying on courageously and not missing a beat in her life
Rising strong like a hero and not a poor victim
Pouring out her emotions and detoxifying her soul through writing
Connecting with more friends around the world that inspire and support her
Skype, Hangouts, texts and social media bring friends who are far, close to her heart
She doesn’t feel alone or ignored anymore, she is smiling
Her heart and mind are open, she can breathe again

Finally she disembarks this wild emotional roller coaster ride
Thanking her guardian angels for riding along side with her
This girl is on fire now and has her strength back and more
She walks into the appointment with her pen in hand
Signs the document that changes her life forever and for the better
Her inked signature says it all loud and clear
It’s finally over.
And this time…
She walks away with her back to him for the very first time
And rocks it


** A special thanks to Darshith for letting me borrow his awesome idea of adding music to my blog 😉 **Thank you** 🙂 Since this post has a before and after, I chose two songs; Foolish Games by Jewel and Brand New Me by Alicia Keys.  Thank you for reading and listening, I know it was long but I just had to get it all out, turn my back, close the door, walk away and move on.  Enjoy the music…Life is beautiful.  We’re all human.

Love, Thanks and Hugs to You,


Loving Maya Angelou


Maya Angelou is a true compassionate woman with an outstanding sense of humor.  Her quotes are so real and honest you always know where you stand with her.  I have to say I do miss her and her funky glasses, her wise slow talking grandmotherly voice, her interviews with Oprah Winfrey, and her punchy lines that can shock and inspire all at the same time.  I’m so grateful there are many quotes of hers widely available to all of us and today I just thought it would be nice to list some for all of you.   Here’s to you Maya, with love. ..

“When people show you who they are, believe them”

“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option”

“You will face many defeats in your life but never let yourself be defeated”

“If you’re always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you will be”

“Jealousy in romance is like salt in food.  A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening”

“Do the best you can until you know better.  Then when you know better, do better”

“Hate has caused a lot of problems in this world, but it has not solved one yet”

“If you don’t like something, change it.  If you can’t change it, change your attitude”

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty”

“I do not trust people who don’t love themselves and yet tell me ‘I love you.’  There is an African saying which is:  Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt”

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you”

“If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love.  Don’t be surly at home.  Then go out in the street and start grinning good morning at total strangers”

“To those who have given up on love, I say; trust life a little bit”

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away”

“You can’t use up creativity, the more you use, the more you have”

“I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he handles these three things:  a rainy day, lost luggage and tangled Christmas tree lights”

“I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back”

“I’ve learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life”

“My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept that love in return”

“A woman’s heart should be so lost in God that a man would have to seek Him to find her”


Missing you Maya, you’re awesome!


My first Thanksgiving

A big thank you to Bhavya, aka chicwithmessybun ❤ You're amazing 🙂

Pages From My Diary ....

A day late with this post but still… it’s better late than never..right?? Anyways.. i want to share this with the world that happiness is found in the most unexpected places. I started this blog a few months back to express my work. It gave me happiness and still makes me happy every time i write a post and the response i get from all of you.. This blogging world introduced me to some interesting people and good friends.. and i want to mention a special blogger for keeping me strong in some very tough times recently. Jennifer Juneau… you’re a superhero.. whatever you went through this year is something you didn’t deserve but you’re a survivor and i know you’ll be more than fine. You’ve inspired me.. helped me to stay strong.. Thank you for always being there for me. You’re the sister i never had. you’re one of…

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This Girl Can

This post goes out to all the girls who think they can.  You can get rid of that stress, you can push yourself to the limit, you can do anything you set your eyes on doing, you can live well and look amazing!  It’s mind over matter girls and you’ve got this…that fire inside you is there for a reason so get moving and get inspired because you’re worth it!!!!  Let’s go Zumba lovers!  😉

Love you,