Your “Absolute No” List

Blog 4- checklist- ready

To Do Lists/Honey Do Lists – You know the ones, they’re a mile long and related to things needing to be done around the house by you or your honey.  These lists remind us of what needs our attention and as you cross something off, you should try to resist adding something in its place otherwise the list never goes down in size and you don’t feel a sense of accomplishment; you feel drained.  On the other hand, To Do Lists can be something you look forward to doing in the future with someone 😀

Goals I want to achieve lists – Run a marathon, lose 10 pounds, get a promotion, etc.  These lists can be great motivators and are good to have around where you can see them.  Think of action steps when you see these goals because it’s one thing to know what you want to achieve and it’s another thing to actually do it.

Things I want to buy list – This list ranges from anything practical to anything frivolous.  Sometimes all you need is a new mattress for your bed and other times you want a new car.  It’s good to dream but stay within your means and don’t go over budget.  You may go one step further and ask yourself “Is this a need or a want?”  By answering this question it can either make you run to the cash to pay for it or walk away.

Absolute Yes List – What are the things you absolutely must have in your life?  What inspires you?  Think about your top priorities in the areas of emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual sides of your life.  Also, look at relationships, work, children, family, leisure activities, community service, and so on.  List as many as possible and circle your top 10.  Keep that list visible and close by so you can see it each day as a reminder.

 

***FLIP***

 

The above lists are the most common ones we see and hear people talking about whereas the following lists below are rarely considered and it’s time we do consider them because they can help prioritize what is important to you and give you some space and clarity in your life.

It’s all in the flip.

Stop Doing List – What can you seriously live without?  Maybe stop buying junk food every time you go to the grocery store.  Stop gossiping, stop dealing with difficult situations alone, stop reading books that don’t grab your attention, stop being a martyr and going to work when you’re sick.   Stop saying Yes when you want to say No.

Goals I have achieved so far list – What have you already accomplished?   This is a great motivator and reminder of accomplishing more if you want to.  You feel proud of yourself for having the perseverance and determination to do so.

Things I have and feel grateful for – As you reflect on the things you have in your life you realize you have more than you thought.  Being grateful gives a new perspective on life and how you can find gratitude each day.  By not only celebrating the big moments or achievements, you can be grateful for the little things like the sunny day you planned that picnic and it didn’t rain or be grateful you made it through that exercise class without fainting!  When you feel grateful you create joy from within and during the times when life is beating you up, this is the time when you need to practice gratitude the most.

Absolute No List – What activities do you no longer do or want to do, what/who drains you, which relationships do you need to remove, what frustrates you?  What will you no longer tolerate?  Pay attention to how you feel in your body such as tightness in your chest, butterflies in your stomach, or headaches.  For example, if you feel stress and resentment at every Christmas gathering because you’re the one always putting on the big spread, maybe it’s time to hand it over to someone else to do.

Here is a sneak peak of what’s on my “Absolute No” List:

I no longer…

Put myself last

Live with drama or accept it in my life

Watch the news, it’s too upsetting

Compromise my needs to keep peace with anyone

Stay quiet when I want to speak up

Buy things unless I need them

Invest time in relationships that are not aligned with who I am

 

It’s time we start living life and not rushing through it.  We need to use our time wisely by removing some things in our life rather than reorganizing and reshuffling it.  Removing gives more time and space and allows you to slow down.  Reclaim your life.

It’s time to put ourselves first and practice self-care techniques instead of keeping the peace at any cost and continuing the legacy of deprivation and resentment.   Self-care is not selfish, it’s essential.  When you are happy you radiate that to others and they feel it and when you are full of love and energy, you have that much more to give.

Your Challenge:  Complete these lists on your own and see where you stand and what is achievable in your own life.  By closely examining your absolute no list, it may be a real eye-opener for you but quantity is rarely better than quality and we all strive for a better quality of life.  It’s a wonderful way of getting to know yourself better and promoting some personal growth and development.

What’s on your “Absolute No” List?

 

Much Love ❤

 

Jen
xo

 

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45 thoughts on “Your “Absolute No” List

  1. Stop sulking over imaginary failures..

    That was on top of my absolute no list.. I’ll have to spend more time to build on it..

    Quite inspiring and I might give this a try..

    Thanks for the love dear.. 😉

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    • Hi Lori thank you so much for stopping by and reading my post 😊 it’s really great to meet you. I agree lists should not run our lives and they’re great for staying organized. I will check your blog as well

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  2. Jennifer, I didn’t realize there are so many types of lists. My absolute no list would be 1- stop snacking. (I have beena bad boy this summer). 2 – Procrastinating. It is rare that I do, ut I have een in summer mode spending time with Allie and putting things aside.

    Hope you are well. Have a good one.

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  3. Once again, I loved loved lovd this post. You remined so beautifully and gently how one needs to be attentive towards one’s own self. I love the way you do it. Unlike many others you don’t make the reader feel guilty. And that’s the best thing.

    I have a happiness jar, in which i write down my happy moments on a chit and put. Then there some other diaries like spiritual diary, teaching experience diary and my personal journal. And in all these, i write things you mentioned, though as a part of experiences. But i am gonna make separate lists of all those supercool things.

    On Friday 1 July 2016, Dare To Live Courageously… wrote:

    > Jennifer Juneau posted: ” To Do Lists/Honey Do Lists – You know the ones, > they’re a mile long and related to things needing to be done around the > house by you or your honey. These lists remind us of what needs our > attention and as you cross something off, you should try to resi” >

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  4. That was a such a thought provoking post, while the former lists gave me the zeal to accomplish things the latter lists made me feel good for whom I turned out to be today. Thank you:) Glad I found you:)

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  5. Hello Jenni. . It’s been a long time how are you?

    And this post is amazing. Often we make list for what we want or what we have but not often on what w don’t want.
    For me, ‘Don’t put expectations on others. ‘ ‘Don’t feel inferior to anyone’ ‘Don’t keep over thinking.’ And lol ‘Don’t take big breaks from blogging’ will be on the list.

    Haha. . very inspiring post! This method definitely helps. How are your kids. Wish everything is fine there.

    Have a good time.

    Now my comments are going to spam folder similar to your case previously. Lol. 😛

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    • Wow Jackie!!! It’s so great to see you back on WP again! I was wondering where you were and I even asked Darshith if you are ok. So happy to see you back and yes you need to add “Don’t take big breaks from blogging” to your list! 😉 Thank you so much for liking the post, it’s one that makes us think about the opposite which is also needed for balance.

      My kids are great and enjoying summer vacation now 🙂 We are doing well and I hope you are good too. 🙂

      I hope your comments issue gets solved quickly, use Akismet to help you they are great and helped me! That’s unbelievable!! You take good care and don’t disappear for so long now that you’re back. Hope all is well with you and your family.

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  6. I really love this post! I feel it is very important to set goals, which is one of the reasons why I created my blog, to track them! But I also never thought of creating “Not to Do Lists”, and I think they will be very helpful! Thanks 🙂

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