How many times have you heard or caught yourself saying “I can’t trust that person” or “I’ll never be able to trust anyone ever again.” Relationships of all kinds require the element of trust in order to be real and successful. However, trust is often a sliding scale and where you land on it can vary with each day, person or situation. We usually know where trust ends which is a betrayal of some sort but have you ever wondered the opposite?
Where does trust start?
“I always knew that George was hiding money from me, but I didn’t listen to myself. Now that we are getting divorced, he’s not being honest with me about his money situation. I trusted him, instead of me and now I’m left with nothing.”
This person didn’t listen to themselves and put their trust in someone else which sadly ended in betrayal. People talk about listening to their gut feelings which are our intuition and inner messages trying to tell us something. If and when we put our trust in others, instead of in ourselves, that’s when we give away our power to someone else and set ourselves up for being used and betrayed. It’s also when we point the finger and blame them and not us. In the case of a betrayal, both sides play a role in the breakdown but when it comes to trust, it all begins with you.
How often have you heard and felt your intuition telling you what is true or untrue and instead you ignored it, only to regret it after the fact? A voice might say “You’re still with that person- why didn’t you leave?” Author Caroline Myss says this is a betrayal to yourself and it hurts the most because deep down you know what to do but if you don’t trust yourself to do the right thing, your life begins to harm you. That voice often speaks the truth we don’t want to hear but it doesn’t turn off. When you start to pay attention by trusting your inner knowing, your trust issues with other people will slowly be resolved and it will be harder for them to betray you.
Going back to the original question of where does trust start? It’s ironic because trust has nothing to do with the other person initially, but has everything to do with you, and once you can begin to trust yourself, you will be able to trust others and form strong, lasting and loving relationships.
Start trusting yourself first.
Self-trust + Self-love = Trusting, Loving Relationships with Others ❤
Much Love ❤