Looking Back While Looking Ahead

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I read somewhere that you should never look back on things that happened but only look back to see how far you’ve come.  I would like to add that looking back can be a positive experience if your intention is to find the life lesson or silver lining hiding within the situation.

“No experience is wasted…everything in life is to grow you up.”  ~ Oprah Winfrey

Looking back, it’s been one year ago today, October 27th, 2015 when I signed my divorce papers.  Since then I’ve done a lot of soul-searching, writing, learning, and personal growth and development.  The year 2015 was the most difficult time of my life and in 2016, I needed to make it one of the best years of my life.  Looking ahead, I just finished writing my first book which was cathartic.  My new start began with my trip to India in January 2016 and it was the best way to push the restart button on my new life.

I’ve definitely come a long way in a short amount of time.

I am currently in the editing phase with my publishing company and I am expecting to have my book released in early 2017 which I am crazy excited about!  It will be available everywhere online, more details on that to come later on.  I wanted to share this news and blog about it to let you know it’s coming and give you some background information at the same time.

This book is about how I dealt with my separation and divorce and how I overcame adversity by self-reflection and finding the silver lining in my crumbling life events.  It’s not a book of venting or blaming.  It’s about my journey to recovery, accepting my own responsibilities and how I kept a positive outlook and learned some life lessons while living through the most difficult time of my life.  For every chapter, I describe the before, during and after phase by including my reflections now and a blog I wrote on my website in real time with the real emotions of what I was going through in 2015 and 2016.  Therefore, these chapters are the real and personal stories behind the blogs I wrote, alongside my reflections now.

We all fall down in life and I admit I have fallen many times which is painful and hurts so much.  It’s normal to stay down for a while but eventually, you need to get back up and face reality.  This requires some action steps and commitment. But for some, this is where the rubber fails to hit the road.  They may know what they need to do but they can’t even begin to even try.  I know how hard that is because there were days I felt the same way, but I realized that by keeping an open mind and open heart I may fall again and what’s important is finding the strength to keep rising with an incredible support system.

If you’ve ever had a relationship end in a traumatic way and change your world or if you are in the middle of one right now, rest assured you are not alone, I can sympathize and empathize with you and I am by your side.   My intention is to let you know you’re not alone and you can get through it.

Even though every story or scenario might be different when it comes to any type of loss in life, the one thing we all share is our emotions and the grieving process we all go through. That’s how we’re all connected and if we can support one another during our most difficult times, this I know for sure is the best way to survive.

It definitely worked for me, I didn’t do this alone.

Once you have the support you need, you can begin the healing process by taking some responsibility for your own actions because let’s face it, it takes two people to make or break a relationship.  This might come as a surprise to some because when there is a breakup, one person may be more to blame than the other.  This might be true to some extent but the other person definitely plays a role in that relationship which led to its demise whether they want to own it or not.  Life is a journey of imperfections, and trials and tribulations.  Some days, weeks or years are better than others but let’s not forget we’re all human.

Not robots, not perfect and not superior.

I would like to share some words by author Brené Brown that helped carry me through some of my toughest times and I hope they help you too.

Manifesto of the Brave and Brokenhearted

“There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fearmongers
Than those of us who are willing to fall
Because we have learned how to rise

With skinned knees and bruised hearts;
We choose owning our stories of struggle,
Over hiding, over hustling, over pretending.

When we deny our stories, they define us.
When we run from struggle, we are never free.
So we turn toward truth and look at it in the eye.

We will not be characters in our stories.
Not villains, not victims, not even heroes.

We are the authors of our lives.
We write our own daring endings.

We craft love from heartbreak,
Compassion from shame,
Grace from disappointment,
Courage from failure.

Showing up is our power.
Story is our way home.
Truth is our song.
We are the brave and brokenhearted.
We are rising strong.”

I feel proud for sharing my story with all of you in my upcoming book and I appreciate all of your love and support.

 

Much Love ❤

Jen

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3 Day 3 Quotes Challenge-Day 3

Welcome to the last day of the 3 quotes challenge!!

First, I would like to thank my sweet and adorable WordPress friend Deepika Kumaaraguru from India for nominating me! If you haven’t visited her blog yet, YOU MUST!

She’s an amazing person who has accomplished so much in her life at such a young age.  She’s a published author who has written 2 books before her 20’s, a fellow Disney fan and a lover of Zumba!  Her sense of humor is awesome and her comments on my blog are extremely motivating and fun to read, she cracks me up every time!  Deepika is also a big fan of the Ellen Show like me and she comes from a medical background like me too!  We have so much in common Deepika we will have a blast when we meet one day!!

So here we go and welcome to day 3.  These quotes are by author Elizabeth Gilbert who I can connect with very well in her writings.  She’s an amazingly brave woman who has conquered so much and I highly admire her.

The rules are:

  1. Post three quotes each for three days
  2. Nominate three bloggers with no repetition
  3. Thank the person who nominated you

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So there you have it, some inspiring quotes to either end or start your day.  I nominate anyone and everyone to give this quote challenge a try.  It’s Thanksgiving weekend here in Canada and I wish everyone a very Happy Thanksgiving.  We all have a lot to be grateful for in life, we just need to notice what we have 🙂

Much Love ❤

Jen
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3 Days 3 Quotes Challenge-Day 2

Hello again and welcome to Day 2 of the quote challenge!!

First, I would like to thank my sweet and adorable WordPress friend Deepika Kumaaraguru from India for nominating me! If you haven’t visited her blog yet, YOU MUST!

Not only is she an amazing person who has accomplished so much in her life at such a young age, she’s a published author who has written 2 books before her 20’s, a fellow Disney fan and a lover of Zumba 😛  Her sense of humor is awesome and her comments on my blog are extremely motivating and fun to read, she cracks me up every time 😀  Deepika and I are big fans of the Ellen Show and she comes from a medical background like me too!  We have so much in common Deepika we will have a blast when we meet one day!! ❤

So here we go with day 2.  These quotes are by Alan Watts an inspiring author who has a wonderful perspective on life that I just can’t get enough of these days.

The rules are:

  1. Post three quotes each for three days
  2. Nominate three bloggers with no repetition
  3. Thank the person who nominated you

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I nominate anyone and everyone who would like to participate in this quote challenge, it’s an inspiring thing to do ❤ and it’s fun.

Much Love ❤

Jen
xo

3 Day 3 Quote Challenge-Day 1

It’s time for another exciting round of quotes and since I am a huge lover of them, it’s my pleasure to pick some that really speak to me 🙂

First, I would like to thank my sweet and adorable WordPress friend Deepika Kumaaraguru from India for nominating me in this 3 day 3 quote challenge! If you haven’t visited her blog yet, YOU MUST!

She’s an amazing person who has accomplished so much in her life so far at such a young age.  She’s a published author who has written 2 books before her 20’s, a fellow Disney fan like myself and a lover of Zumba as well 😛  Her sense of humor is awesome and her comments on my blog are extremely motivating and fun to read, she cracks me up every time!  I hope I can meet you soon Deepika darling ❤

So here we go, let’s have some fun on day 1 😉

The rules are:

  1. Post three quotes each for three days
  2. Nominate three bloggers with no repetition
  3. Thank the person who nominated you

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So there you have it, if you haven’t tried a Zumba class yet, YOU SHOULD!  It’s so much fun and don’t worry if you aren’t coordinated because nobody is in the beginning and everyone is in their own bubble not watching you.  Not only will you get in shape but you’ll have a blast doing it and your self-confidence will increase too.

I nominate anyone and everyone!!  Thanks again Deepika ❤

Much Love ❤

Jen