Your boyfriend/girlfriend just broke up with you or maybe you didn’t get that job you were counting on. These scenarios are major disappointments in life and if you focus on the negative outcome, you miss the gift of finding the silver lining and life lessons that are often hidden within the situation.
Imagine one of the most challenging situations you had to face and thought you were never going to get through it. Perhaps it was one of these examples above or something even bigger where the devastation was so great you were immobilized for weeks or months.
In hindsight, were you able to see if any good came out of the experience? What were the life lessons you learned from it? In what ways did that experience give your life new meaning?
Now think of a challenge you are facing right now. How might you see your challenge in a new light with a different perspective? What are some positive possibilities that could come because of this challenge you are facing?
When devastation and disappointment strikes, it’s natural to go into victim mode for awhile. The key to surviving this is actually having the key to escape that prison you’re in. Success and failures are two sides of the same coin and sometimes in order to be successful, one needs to fail. Failures are life’s greatest teachers and are road signs telling us that we’re going the wrong way and we need to look for a new direction. These are known as the crossroads in our life which can be a great opportunity for a life review to see what we have, what we want and what we can live without. With every review, things become a little clearer which means you become a little happier and successful in finding your right path.
Let’s suppose that job offer didn’t work out for you and something even better came along. If you would have been offered that first job, the opportunity for accepting the right one would have been lost to someone else. By being patient and accepting the right offer you are able to find the silver lining of being rejected in the first situation.
Heartbreak is another story and maybe the most complicated one of all to fully understand. Even though reasons for why a break up happened are so greatly varied, the feelings and emotions that someone experiences are the same no matter what the situation. Anger, sadness, grieving a loss are essential feelings to go through in order to make sense of the situation and move forward. There are times when one person no longer feels the loving connection they once had as a couple and despite the efforts of trying to repair things, it becomes time for them to walk away. In life, sometimes people can grow with you and other times people grow apart from you. As hard as it may be to accept this fact, all of this aids in your own personal growth and development because if someone who isn’t right for you stays, then you miss out on meeting the person who is right.
Once free from an emotionally dead relationship, that’s when the process of self-discovery begins which is a beautiful thing because when you know more about who you are, your values, and what you represent then you will attract like-minded people into your life instead of settling. You become more loving and self-compassionate which allows you to extend that love to others, making it more authentic because it becomes an opportunity to open up your heart and mind. When you hit rock bottom in a relationship, the only way to go is up because painful endings are beautiful beginnings. Therefore, learning the life lessons and finding the silver lining in heartbreak are the best things that could ever happen to you and this is worth celebrating.
The possibilities are endless when finding the silver lining in life’s challenges and your job is to find them because silver is the new gold and trust me, you don’t want to miss it.
Wishing everyone a season of peace and joy this December. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all 🙂
P.S. My book is due to be released at the end of March 2017 so I will keep you posted on that as well. In it, I go through the silver linings I found and life lessons I learned which inspired me to write this post as well.
Much Love ❤