Winning While Losing: The Upside of Heartbreak

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Well, it’s been over a year since I started this journey of writing my first book.  Never in a million years did I think this dream would be happening or right around the corner, but it’s getting much closer to being complete!

As it stands right now, my publisher at FriesenPress is putting the final copyright touches on my book and pretty soon, it will be available through their online bookstore and by June, it will be available on every online platform worldwide!!!

I can’t even control my excitement, having my book released will be something meaningful for me because I managed to turn on a light while being in the dark, I flipped the negatives into positives, and my main goals were to heal myself while helping others in return 🙂

I am sharing a piece of the book cover in the above photo and I would also like to share the Preface from my book with all of you, just to give you a taste of what’s to come, very, very soon.  I hope you like it and once the book is out, I will pass on all the links to where you can find it.  I am planning a book launch and once it is organized I will give you the details on that as well.

Thank you so very much for all your true love and support ❤



As I wrote my book, I was inspired while reading By The River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept by Paulo Coelho.  Apparently, in his book, there is a legend where everything that falls into the waters of this river is transformed into the rocks that make the riverbed.  When you write out your feelings, it is the pen that shoots flames onto paper and bleeds from your soul.  Once it is written, it is tossed into the cold water to extinguish those flames and take away your suffering.  All of my tears and pain could be let go of and washed away by performing this beautiful gesture in a river close to my home.  All I had to do was finish writing my book and head down to the riverbank which is exactly what I did on a cool October afternoon.   As a symbol and blessing to myself, I tossed a copy of my flaming and bleeding manuscript into the frigid waters to extinguish my lingering suffering and have it washed far away.  As tears rolled down my cold cheeks into the river, I saw the manuscript flow with the current, and I imagined it turning to stone sinking far from here, becoming another rock at the bottom of the riverbed.  In that very moment, I suddenly felt the chill in the air, I released everything and let go, and the bleeding in my heart finally stopped.

My name is Jennifer Green and this is my story of how I dealt with my separation and divorce and how I overcame adversity by self-reflection and found the silver linings in my crumbling life events.  It’s not a book of venting or blaming.  It’s about my journey to recovery, accepting my own responsibilities and how I kept a positive outlook and learned some life lessons while living through the most difficult time of my life.  For every chapter I have written in this book during 2016, I am including a blog I wrote on my website in real time with the real emotion of what I was going through in 2015 and 2016.  Therefore, these chapters are the real and personal stories behind the blogs I wrote, alongside my reflections now.

We all fall down in life and I admit I have fallen many times which is painful and hurts so much.  It’s normal to stay down for a while but eventually, you need to get back up and face reality.  This requires some action steps and commitment. But for some, this is where the rubber fails to hit the road.  They may know what they need to do but they can’t even begin to even try.  I know how hard that is because there were times I felt the same way, but I realized that by keeping an open mind and open heart I may fall again and what’s important is finding the strength to keep rising with an incredible support system.

If you’ve ever had a relationship end in a traumatic way and change your world or if you are in the middle of one right now, rest assured you are not alone, I can sympathize and empathize with you and I am by your side.

We can walk through this together.

Thank you so much for joining me on my journey and welcome to my world.

~Jennifer Green







41 thoughts on “Winning While Losing: The Upside of Heartbreak

  1. “If you’ve ever had a relationship end in a traumatic way and change your world or if you are in the middle of one right now, rest assured you are not alone, I can sympathize and empathize with you and I am by your side.”

    These lines are motivating and inspiring! It’s great that you have decided to write a book and help others too. If not real help…at least offer your thoughts and emotions. Great going Jennifer!

    All the best!

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  2. Congratulations, well done Jennifer! What a huge achievement – the publication and your healing process. I am sure many will relate to it as you write very well.
    And what a lovely ritual to complete your process at the river with that big rock … I have another ritual for ending things. Similar but very different.

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  3. Dear Jenny, Your book is gonna be a gem, just like you. It has something to offer everyone, whether he/she is dealing with a heartbreak or not. Your words make a deep impact. Warm and positive. Pain has passed through you but you turned it into power for others. Thank you for being there. Thank you for showing us the light. With lots of love❤️🌸🌼🌸❤️

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  4. You are such an inspiration how to overcome your painful change of life. I can so much relate to your pain, having gone through a painful separation and divorce, yet my photography work kept me grow and taking me to a different plateau in my work. I thank you for sharing all you do.

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    • Thank you so much Cornelia for sharing your story here and for your comments. Sorry you had to go through that as well, but it’s great your photography excelled despite that 🙂 Great to see you!

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      • Thank you Jennifer, so sorry for responding so late, for some reason WP didn’t allow me to have access to all my blogger friends comments. Thank you for your soothing thoughts, indeed I have excelled to a different level. I hope we can share our thoughts in the future. Looking fore ward to see you again.

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      • Thank you so much Cornelia and not to worry about the late response. I had the same thing happen to me before too 😊 Hope we can exchange thoughts as well 😊

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