Lately, I’ve been thinking about how I can practice more self-care while I continue to heal and learn from my divorce. I don’t know about you, but when you find yourself on your own, the only person who can take care of you is you. Self-care is not an option, a luxury, or some “woo-woo” thing. It’s the real deal and necessary if you want to survive. Self-care is for everyone who is living, breathing, and has a pulse; so yes, that means you.
It doesn’t mean spending a lot of money but instead, it’s about paying attention to your needs and what makes you feel good by putting yourself first. This is not a selfish act, because if you plan on taking care of others such as your kids or loved ones, you need to take care of yourself first because it’s just like the oxygen mask theory on the plane. When you have what you need, you have something to give. Just as you recharge your iPhone, you need to recharge your life.
Take a time out for yourself.
Let go of the “disease to please” others. Sometimes you need a wall, not a door or a bridge. We need to get comfortable with disappointing others for our own health and well-being, knowing and expressing what works and doesn’t work for us. That’s self-respect and possibly another blog.
This blog a collective group effort to share thoughts, ideas, and ways that other people practice self-care so we can all learn from one another. The response has been outstanding and fun by amazing men and women in all walks of life. It’s an honor to write this blog, no names are mentioned except one who offered and is happy to do so. Thank you from the bottom of my heart to everyone who participated and contributed, I am eternally grateful and inspired!
So grab a snack, drink, and blanket, and curl up somewhere comfy because this blog will give you something to ponder for awhile. Let’s see what these rockstars said in their own words about what self-care means to them!!
“Self-care for me is this very struggle I have at 7:28 am right now. How it takes me to scroll through social media to leave the bed and get going for the day. Somedays are like that. Somedays, it’s easier. I decide to wake up go for a run, shower, cook my breakfast and work is set in motion. Self-care is unfollowing that particular person who no longer provides any constructive drama to my life, who may be negative in a way. Self-care would be not always obliging to everyone’s notions and once in a while say fuck it and do what I need to do. Self-care would be sleeping until I am tired of sleeping, watching Netflix until the series gets over, giving in to 2 am burger cravings. Sometimes it’s heart over mind, sometimes mind over heart. Whatever helps me get through the day, frowning or laughing”
“I believe in taking days off every now and then to recharge and reset. If you do a repetitive job you have a greater chance of burnout. A three-day weekend can help”
“Making myself important”
“Taking a nice walk, with or without my little dog”
“The healing power of listening, making, and moving to music…3 part series”
“For me, self-care is all the little things we do on a daily basis to take care of us, the body, mind, and soul. As simple as brushing our teeth, taking a shower, drinking water, eating the right food and having a laugh”
“Self-care to me is when I purposefully check out mentally, remove all of the «titles» that define me on a daily basis (mom, wife, manager, sister, daughter, etc.) and do something that will make ME happy in that specific moment. It is when I am just me, in my essence, and listen to my needs”
“Being at one with nature. Walking the dog, biking, paddleboarding, just about anything outside that doesn’t include a phone or computer”
“By going to LIME”
“Going to read at the British café, drinking tea, going for walks and doing home spa nights. All things I do alone”
“Working a four day week, exercise, taking walks, eating well! I think we do a better job as we get older and come to terms with what things we should embrace and those to avoid. Also having school-aged children frees up some time I didn’t have before!”
“Long baths. Playing with my dog. Singing at the top of my lungs and dancing around the house”
“Surrounding myself with positive supportive people and monthly massage!”
“Reading an inspirational book by a certain local author:)”
“Love to sing at the top of my lungs in my car when alone. Lying in bed doing some breathing exercises. Play with my doggy”
“I do three things…..Xbox (fabulous escape from reality), needle felt and walk”
“Self-care for me is body, mind, and soul. Meditation is my biggest self-care go to! I am a certified crystal and energy healer so I tend to work with Crystal’s a lot”
“Hot tub + wine + a good book, gardening, walking my dog, long phone calls with my mom, and anything that gets me laughing. Oh! And kayaking!”
“Yoga, dragon boat, weight training, massages, pedicures”
“While I try to actually do something that sounds more cool or effortful, sometimes my self-care is simply snuggling up to watch a few episodes of my tv shows with a drink in-hand –> without the risk of being disturbed. I never skip that one”
“Learning new dance styles ( Right now learning Kizomba ) to exercise the brain. I go for an acupuncture session and a massage once a month. I try to make better choices for my diet as I am getting older. All of this is important to my self-care!”
“Some days it’s simply eating nourishing food and getting 8 hours of sleep. If I’m particularly stressed it involves things like yoga, meditation, deep breathing. Self-care means whatever I need at that moment to support my mind, body, and soul”
“Naps. Beach. Boundaries (in all areas of my life). Positive Affirmations. Netflix and chill”
“I’m really bad at it. But getting better. I have started running with a group of ladies who have never run before. Its great all starting at the begging together. Plus there is the talking afterward. I also do Zumba. My personal favorite though is I invite friends over once the kids are in bed and drink wine and chat. I am a social butterfly. If I don’t talk I go crazy!”
“Self-care for me is doing more things that I want to do, things that interest me, inspire me. Its also being more aware of my inner critical voice so that I am kinder to myself”
“Time for yoga and meditation rewires the brain and produces dopamine naturally – the feel-good hormone”
“Self-care for me is taking the time to meditate, spend time in nature or have a salt bath”
“I say “no”… a lot. I have learned that knowing my limits, and not over-committing is the best thing I can do for me. Also, massage & chiro. If my body isn’t functioning, it makes everything more difficult physically, emotionally and mentally”
“To me self-care is … Tuning out the “noise” and tuning into my divinity and creativity through meditative practice. This has many forms, including meditation, being in nature, yoga, and art”
“Combination of Reiki, nature, coffee shop chats and doing something creative”
“Mindfulness taught by the heart institute, a hot coffee, good book quiet time in my crappy garden, jack pine trail to feed the chickadees, and biggest (and toughest of all) saying no. Just no.”
“Participating in spiritual development through meditation, prayer, volunteering, being in nature, practicing yoga etc”
“Kickboxing, BJJ, tea and a good book”
“Yoga, pick up soccer and receiving craniosacral therapy!”
“Yoga once a week, biking a few times a week, reading, going for a daily walk and having a personal training”
“I run. It’s moving meditation for me”
“So happy you asked this. I need to do more of this. I go for a walk near the river or walk my dog”
“Volunteering. Putting others needs ahead of my own helps to center me”
“Giving attention and love to womb. Connecting to sexual energy and vitalizing body with tantric breathing techniques”
“So many things! I absolutely love what I do for a living, I work out 5 days a week, I meet up with people I adore for lunch often, I spend time with my teens, I volunteer my time and donate back into organizations I believe in, I do things that make me feel good! I feel very lucky to be at the place I am today!”
“Yoga, Saltastic, and sleep”
“Sunscreen – for my future self”
“Read. Garden. Lunch with Friends”
“ I do things that make me happy. Take time for exercise, go to the spa, indulge in my favorite food, sleep, take time for me, spend time with friends, spend time with my dog, cry (releases feel-good hormones and actually makes you feel better!). Basically, I do me”
“5 min facial & 10 min pedicure at home. Perfect for the busy momma’s”
“Hula hooping to my favorite tunes! As a busy mama & entrepreneur, I love knowing that I can easily grab my hoop any time. Even as little as 5 min in my hoop can completely shift my energy & my headspace. It takes me out of my head, raises my vibrations, releases tension, relaxes muscles, lifts my heart… I feel like a new woman after being in my flow for a bit!”
“ I bought an infrared sauna for my house, why – because I’m worth it to have time to recharge myself through reading or music, or just enjoying the sweat”
“Taking quiet time to connect with my heart – last night that meant sitting in my little urban garden with chai tea taking in the scents of the flowers and the lush beauty of all things green”
“Gardening. Short story..Once upon a time, I told my children gardening was soothing to my soul. They were both very young, grade 1 or grade 2. One morning I was driving them to school, backed out of the driveway, and just stopped in front of the house and said to them “oh look at the garden”. My daughter, who is 4 years younger than her older brother, said “What’s the big deal about the garden mom?”, and my son turned to her, and said: “Emerald, you know it is soothing to her soul” Heart melt.”
“Daily morning meditation, practice and teach yoga, writing, listening and chanting my favorite mantras”
“Face masks, saying no and journaling”
“Morning run and exercise, good nutrition, regular sex, meeting with friends, weekly massage and acupuncture, Epsom salt baths. I live with chronic anxiety and depression. I’m am very aware of this and self-heal. I thank the people around me for keeping my mental health in check”
“I bake and share the reapings of it. I read my Bible and pray. I take my meds. I have friends”
“By taking one hour for myself when I wake up to follow this routine: 10 minutes of meditation; 10 minutes of reading; 10 minutes of visualization; 10 minutes of reciting positive affirmations; 10 minutes of exercise; and ten minutes of journaling. To me, self-care is about always meeting yourself at the level of consciousness at which you want other people to meet you. It’s about not being afraid to set boundaries with others and treating yourself like a queen”
“I am now addicted to taking time for myself when I wake up. No one can rush me and my family knows and respects my Queendom”
“I find time to relax and treat myself – foot/hand spa with shellac pedicure/ manicure, bubble bath in bathtub with relaxing music, eat my favourite food, relax watch movies at home eating ice cream, popcorn and others while watching with your loved ones then take a nap Wow, nice life without any kids with me just me and my darling”
“I’ve learned to enjoy the little things each day. Like for instance I’m currently exhausted and have a ton of house/pets/business work to do today but I’m laying down writing this while my pet bird is semi-sleeping beside me giving me kisses. I prioritize sleep and I make sure every day I am contributing to some hobby of mine I enjoy to do like crafting, painting, hiking, knitting, writing”
“Swimming laps or calling a friend”
“Sipping wine in my high heels. It feels great and you look good too!”
“Reiki, QiGong, strength training, lots of time in nature, dancing, bodywork, prayer, journaling, blogging, self-inquiry, therapy, keeping old friends across time and space, learning from teachers that I admire, doing Shadow work, and doing work that matters to me”
“Knitting can be so relaxing”
“Investing in myself; being more self-aware of my needs and how I can reach goals with a soul and be happy on my own”
“Walking away from relationships that are a one-way street. Nobody deserves to be disrespected. Allow yourself to heal, take a break from dating and date yourself instead”
“Watching Super Soul Sunday makes me feel inspired every week”
“By helping others who are in need”
“Nurturing friendships, spending time with my kids doing something fun and crazy like ziplining”
“Eliminating negativity from my life for my own mental and emotional health”
“Solo travel, or travel of any sort. It fills my soul and I need this”
“For me, it’s taking time with people that are important to me that makes me feel good”
“Knowing when it’s time to walk away from a job/relationship for your own health and well-being. Hire a life coach and make the switch. I’m worth it”
“Meditation. Yoga. Exercise. Sleep”
“Knitting, sewing, aquafit, yoga, guitar playing, painting, gardening, walking”
“Walking somewhere new in nature and taking photos of everything beautiful”
“Writing, Zumba, PiYo and Salsa Dancing”
“Playing the drums, listening to music, playing football outside with my friends”
“Listening to music, playing video games and sports, spending time with friends”
“Self-care is made of the two most basic and simple words but the implementation of it is not that simple or that basic. I say this because no one teaches us this. No one tells us that we have to take care of ourselves first. We’re always asked and expected to care for others and put others before us. This distracts us from the fact that we gotta take care of ourselves first to take care of others. So, we learn this simple thing the hard way and the tough way, by seeing ourselves injured and hurt mentally over and over again, till it struck us. And then once we know this simple rule of self-care, we become a matured and wise person with each passing day. We take decisions with confidence and are ready to face difficulties and tell NO when we don’t feel like saying YES for the sake of others. This is the change in our thinking and this is the change which we as a society needs; to make everyone feel at home with themselves.” ~Darshith Badiyani, Bangalore, India, age 27
After reading so many loving thoughts and ideas, I hope you feel inspired to practice self-care…like a rockstar. It just goes to show there are several ways of doing one thing, we just need to look within and make time for ourselves because we count too. Many thanks again to everyone who contributed, you are all AWESOME!
Much Love and Gratitude ❤
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Wow! I loved all the responses ❤ So true and soo good. There was one of Gardening and it was cute 😀 There is so much to life than being tensed and bothered for others and doubting ourselves. We're all perfect and with that, we can achieve infinite things. A great initiative, Jennifer! :* Love you for everything and keep shining!
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Yes! Thank you so much for loving the blog Darshith and also for your wonderful contribution 💕 So many great ideas in there and you’re right, there’s more to life than being stressed about everything. Love you too!! ❤
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Each to his own! A great compilation, Jennifer!
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Thank you so much for liking the blog Arv! 😁
You are welcome 😃
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