“And you? When will you begin that long journey into yourself?” ~Rumi
Just when you thought you were drowning, you were actually learning how to swim. Just when you thought you were falling, you were actually learning how to fly. Just when you thought something was ending, something new was beginning.
Sometimes in the midst of struggle and challenge is when you see what you are made of, how you survive and where the greatest lessons of all are found. When you are in the moment it can be pretty darn hard to see it this way, but speaking from experience, I know this to be true.
What does self-discovery mean to you?
In my own life, I’ve come to define self-discovery as many things but it all starts with taking the time for YOU. Such as going on a journey within, by yourself and for yourself. Becoming aware of your character and true potential, your wants, and needs, likes and dislikes. Knowing your values, setting boundaries and what you can tolerate in different life situations. Accepting everything about who you truly are, especially the imperfections. It’s about ownership of where you went wrong, learning life lessons, forgiveness of others and especially of yourself. It’s about finding your purpose; we all have one. In a way, self-discovery is also self-awareness.
When you know yourself, you are empowered. When you accept yourself, you are invincible.
The opposite of self-discovery is denial. Denying who you are to others and to yourself.
Many don’t know who they are or what they want, but somehow give unsolicited advice to others on how to live their lives or they tell lies. Unfortunately, this never ends well.
The photo above in this blog describes self-discovery so well. Sometimes we need to let go and peel away the layers that no longer serve us to get down to the good stuff of who we really are, who we were meant to be. If we want others to know who we are, we need to know ourselves first. How can we expect others to figure us out when we haven’t even tried to do that with ourselves? So how do we do it?
I’m not an expert, but one way I did it was through writing and journaling. To be able to do this, you need to be on your own without any distractions. Another way I went on my self-discovery journey was through solo travel. When you are traveling on your own, you depend on yourself 100% and you quickly find out how to trust your instincts and who you are. Thirdly, there is an amazing questionnaire designed by Patrick Betdavid that you can download and fill out on your own one quiet Sunday afternoon in your happy place. It might be at the beach, the cottage, or wherever you feel most comfortable. Be honest as you do this because that’s the right answer. Yes, it takes time but that’s what it takes. You’ll come out of it a new and improved person and how awesome is that?
When you decide to go on the journey of self-discovery, the benefits are positively endless and amazing, such as bringing more happiness, fulfillment, freedom, and opportunities into your life. It can be a bumpy road but it’s definitely a road worth exploring simply because you’re worth it!
This is the purpose of the Project-Self blogs, like this one, Self-Betrayal, and Self-Care. To raise awareness in ourselves because everything starts and ends with US! It’s easy to blame others but that only keeps people stuck. If we want to evolve in life, then we need to take responsibility for ourselves in what we say and do.
Let’s be kind to ourselves, stop beating ourselves up…we are enough.
I invite you on your own journey of self-discovery…happy travels 🙂
Much Love ❤
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All my gratitude to you ❤