Brené Brown is #TheQueen of defining worthiness, therefore I will quote her instead of trying to interpret her outstanding research. 🙂
“Love and belonging are essential to the human experience. Only one thing separates the men and women who feel a deep sense of love and belonging from the people who seem to be struggling for it. That one thing is the belief in their worthiness. It’s as simple and complicated as this: If we want to fully experience love and belonging, we must believe that we are worthy of love and belonging. When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness-the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging, right this minute.” ~Brené Brown
Worthiness doesn’t have prerequisites but many of us have a long list that we have created or have been handed down to us. I would like you to play along and ask yourself the following questions and answer them as honestly as possible, just for your own knowledge.
I’ll be worthy when/if……
Have you ever felt like you didn’t belong somewhere?
Or had the thoughts that you weren’t good enough?
What did that feel like?
How did you handle that?
Were you able to feel that you were worthy and deserving of love and belonging?
How do you feel about love and belonging right now?
If you could give yourself some advice right now on how to deal with worthiness and love and belonging, what would you say to yourself right now?
Imagine you are talking to a child about worthiness, love and belonging, what would you say to that child?
Are you able to accept this advice you just gave to a child and use it for yourself?
And now for the biggest question of all;
Are you a hustler for worthiness? Do you constantly perform, perfect, please or prove yourself to everyone around you? If you answered yes to this, you are giving away your power to someone else to decide if you are worthy or not. This is not helpful despite your good intentions. Self-worth, self-confidence, believing and knowing you are enough gives you full access to love and belonging and you deserve nothing but the absolute best. ❤
You are enough so no need to hustle. You’re actually more than enough.