“The energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued: when they can give and receive without judgment: and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship. We are wired for connection, it’s in our biology. We need connection to thrive emotionally, physically, spiritually and intellectually. The more strongly connected we are with someone emotionally, the greater the mutual force.” ~Brené Brown
In order to truly connect with others, we need to show up. Get out of our own way. Stop listening to the little gremlins inside our head that tells us we’re not good enough.
All types of relationships are based on connection and whether we see and feel that connection or if we don’t. To feel is to be vulnerable, putting ourselves out there. It’s about self-acceptance and knowing we are not perfect and that it’s the imperfections we carry that make us beautiful.
When someone reaches out to another person, they are being vulnerable, courageous and aware of their imperfections. What they are looking for is empathy which is very different from sympathy. Empathy makes us feel like we are not alone and that somebody cares and understands us. We feel connected. Sympathy only drains us and makes us feel even more alone – disconnected. Sometimes it’s not the response that makes things better but it’s the connection. This short and cute 2:53 minute video explains it very well.
If we want deep, authentic connections we need to get out of our own way, start being vulnerable by feeling every emotion and forget about perfection.
Dare greatly! ❤