This is a common question I hear from people who have never experienced a life coaching session and with good reason. Everyone knows what psychology is but not everyone knows what life coaching is all about. I thought I would write a blog to help hack into this world for you. 🙂
Life coaching is about helping you achieve a desired goal and finding the inspiration and motivation to get you from the present moment to the future. Think of an athlete you follow, he or she has a coach right? Imagine if they didn’t. Where would they be? Coaches motivate, help keep you on track, strive for better and keep you accountable using different techniques and tools. Life coaching is no different except there are no push ups involved, unless this is your desired goal. 😉
I would like to give an example of a coaching call using some key questions I ask that can get the wheels in your mind turning and possibly burning. 😉 So let’s get cracking!
“What is the one goal you would love to achieve in your life right now? In other words, what do you want more of in your life? Fill in the blank; “I want _______________”
“What if time and money weren’t an issue for you, what would you like to have or do?”
The first few questions represent stating what you want in your life. The power to dream big. Many people have never been asked this question before and have a hard time pinning something down because they think they don’t have the right to ask for what they want. If you are like this, rest assured you are not alone. You do have the right to be happy and be free to go after what you want. Give this question some real thought and state your awesome goal.
“Why is that goal important to you?”
“What is the deeper meaning of having this for you?”
“What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind?”
Ahhh.. the “Why” and legacy question, my favorites of all. This is where your values come into play and the reasons you give as to why you want to achieve something are coming from your heart. It’s where we keep our values close to who we are because our values define us. It’s important to know your values in life because they guide your behavior. Plus if you realize this goal is not very important to you, chances are you will never achieve it. Pssst…choose something important!
“On a scale of 1 -10 with 1 being not at all and 10 being you’ve got it, where would you say you are on the scale in reaching this goal right now?”
“What does that number represent or look like? You fill in the blank; “the number ____ represents __________”
“Where would you ultimately like to be on that scale?”
Scaling your goal is very useful because it allows you to see where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It’s measureable. You can track your progress by doing this several times and it also produces motivation and inspiration within to keep you moving forward.
“What are some capabilities and abilities that you already have and can use to reach your goal?”
“What are some of your transferrable skills?”
“How would you and your friends and family describe you?”
“What are some capabilities and abilities that you still need to be able to reach your goal?”
These questions pin point the skills and abilities you already have to get you there and what you still need which is important to know because you need to look at it from all angles. The majority of people when they list their have’s and needs, the have’s list usually wins. Therefore, you have more going for you than you even realized.
“Imagine it’s six months from now and you have successfully reached your goal. What does that look and feel like?”
“If you could take one small action step that could bring you closer to your goal, what would that be?”
Ok here’s the fun part. Now that you know what you have to do and need to do, the question is HOW do you do it? This is where the rubber hits the road for most people. They put the brakes on and don’t move because of fear. Go back to the why is that important to you question again and get inspired.
You gotta walk the talk.
Make sure when you choose a small action step it is specific, measureable, attainable, relevant and timely. In other words, make it easy. Action steps start out small and you don’t have to see the whole staircase, you just need to take the first step. Every step counts in reaching your goal and remember, that one small step can shift everything!
“What else can you do?”
Dig deep and keep asking this question over and over….you get the point.
“How will you hold yourself accountable for doing the action steps you stated?”
Ask a friend or co-worker to check up on you to make sure you did what you said you would do.
“What could possibly stand in your way in being able to reach this goal?”
Usually it’s us. If you have the determination to get it done, nothing can stand in your way.
“When will you take this action step?”
Make sure you set a specific date and mark it down somewhere. Otherwise if you say you will do it later or sometime this month, guess what will happen? Nada, zip, nothing.
“Where will you be working to reach your goal?”
Sometimes people will be at their current workplace, maybe at home or anywhere really. It depends on the goal. State it and write it down. You’re doing great!
After answering these questions you can go back to your scale and see where you are on the line now. Even if you have only moved 0.5 up on the scale, it counts as evidence and a step forward. Celebrate! You are moving in the right direction and are closer to your goal already!
Feeling motivated yet?
Now your life coach holds you accountable for your action steps and will be checking on you to see if you have completed what you said you would do. Each weekly session is a review of the last and involves making more plans for the future. This is how you move forward by tracking progress with your pen and paper or computer. Usually a number of sessions are necessary to get the results you want.
After you happily reach your goal and are living the dream, your notes are available to you from all the work we did together and you can look back at how far you’ve come since that day you had this idea in mind. Years later, you can review it again and again and be proud of yourself for all your answers, hard work, determination, perseverance and motivation. You did it!
You are amazing!
Lots of love ❤