Tripping Over Your Soul

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The power of words can either lift you up or crash you down.

When they lift you up, it might spark a reflection on how to do things differently, cope better or it could inspire you to do some good in this world, love more, to help someone out or even yourself.  Music lyrics are a great example of how healing words can be.

When words crash you down, they can traumatize, change your life, make you fall to your knees with a haunting cry, and be embedded in your heart, mind, and soul forever.  They can reshape you in a twisted kind of way.

This requires some serious healing.

Not only does this apply to the words we hear from others but to the words, we hear from ourselves.  We really are our own worst critics and it’s time to stop these chatty gremlins from taking over our souls, tripping us up and stealing our joy.

What is your soul?  Based on what I know, which is only my opinion, the soul is the place that never dies inside of us, it’s what carries us through this life, lights us up when we are in the dark, promotes personal growth and development and drives us to make changes based on our past mistakes.  We learn from them because our soul is our life and it is always talking to us through connections with others.  Every connection is meant to help us grow; yes the good ones along with the tough ones.

I recently saw my good friend Judith and we had more inspiring conversations over Thai food.  We talked about when you try to heal from something, it’s like tripping over your soul.  I thought that was a great line because it’s almost like learning how to walk again after an accident.  You’re a bit worried, shaky, not going in a straight line, hanging onto things along the way that maybe you shouldn’t.  You fall, get up, try again and keep going forward.  The trick is not to get in your own way.  It takes practice and courage to do this while all along you think you’re not ready and you are fearful of what lies ahead.  Basically, it shakes your confidence in everything but your soul is the motivator that pushes you to try again because it only wants what’s best for you.  The healing journey is a process and in that process, you will trip, stub your toe, and fall, from time to time, but trust in it.  All of this is normal, and what matters is getting up and showing up.  Always remember, even if you are crawling, you are still moving.

Just remember to move forward and it will all work out when you can accept what happened.

Finding your new path means getting out of your own way, tripping over your soul from time to time and that’s ok.

Much Love ❤

Jen

**I hope you are all doing well, my apologies for not blogging as regularly as I have changed jobs recently but things are great.  If you would like to find copies of my book “Winning While Losing:  The Upside of Heartbreak”, it is available at online bookstores worldwide 🙂 I hope you are having a wonderful 2018 so far ❤

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Courage Coach by Jennifer

One of my inspirational bloggers from Australia has interviewed me on her beautiful site. Her name is Kate and I encourage you to check out her writings, they are amazing and relatable to life. Thank you again, Kate, for this wonderful opportunity!!
https://arousedblog.wordpress.com/

Meet the Bloggers

Had noticed Jennifer’s posts but what really attracted me to follow her were her captivating posts about her trip to India, a place I know well. She shared her travels, meals and meet ups with fellow bloggers so well that I really felt like I was on the journey with her. So with all the qualifications she shares with us she can add creative writing to her talents! She has used her grief to write a book about her process that may well help others through their challenges in life and divorce.

Where were you raised?

I’m originally from London (not England), Ontario, CanadaJ which is located south of Toronto in the southern part of the province. The Great Lakes are nearby so going to the beach in summer is very popular there. I moved from London when I was 25 for work.

Do you live far from there now?

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Don’t Fall Asleep At The Wheel

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After reading this title, you might think this blog is about your soon-to-be-16 year-old-son getting his driver’s license; but it’s not.

That’s another story.

Instead, this blog is about relationships and believe me, I’m not an expert in this field but I will speak from my experience and what I’ve learned, not only about love relationships but also about relationships we have with our friends and family, work and with ourselves.  The real expert in talking about relationships is my friend Andrea Syrtash who is a relationships author and columnist who has written for Oprah and Glamour magazine, and I give many credits to her for opening my eyes on this vital topic.

Andrea has taught me that the first question I should ask is “Does this person bring out my best?”  If the answer is no, then there is either work to be done or you need to re-evaluate whether it’s worth keeping in your life.  Not every relationship is forever and some are even toxic.  As situations change, people change along with them which is why a re-evaluation every now and then couldn’t hurt and should be done.

An example of a toxic relationship is being with someone who is submissive and enjoys putting you down, they are a control freak.  A toxic person will target your fears and feed on them whereas a loving person will sense your fears and try to soothe them.  In order for a toxic relationship to change and improve, the toxic person needs to realize they need to take their hands off the wheel and be nice by giving up control for awhile and letting someone else drive because they are not the only one on the road, nor are they the best driver either.

There is nothing worse than a backseat driver.

Relationships take a huge amount of effort on both sides to make them work, whether that’s with friends and family, work, love or ourselves.  Over time, it’s common to see people become lazy or complacent in their relationships and this is where it becomes dangerous because people stop paying attention, they get tired and eventually fall asleep at the wheel.  The other person ends up feeling left out and even at risk of being taken for a ride.  The end result  could either be a close call where something major wakes them up just in time, or it could end up being a car crash where everyone gets hurt and some may not survive.

Imagine if both sides are falling asleep at the wheel!  Let’s not even go there!

Out of all the relationship types listed here, the relationship with ourselves seems to suffer the most because we say we’re too busy to join the gym, no time to eat, other commitments come first and so on.  In order for the other relationships to work well, this is the one relationship that should be tended to first because when you feel good, you want to be good and do good.  All of your relationships benefit from the fact that you are taking care of yourself and are paying attention to how you feel so that you have the energy and desire to feed the others.

So how do we stay awake and motivated in all our relationships?  Coffee is always good and some prefer Red Bull but what you really need is to ask that important question from time to time “Does this person bring out my best?”  This also includes you, do you bring out your best?  Learn to appreciate, nurture and care, take an honest look to see if it’s time to adjust your speed, to hold on or let go of the wheel.  Pay attention to details because you don’t want to miss anything, or run somebody over.  Keep your eyes on the road, and whatever you do, don’t fall asleep at the wheel.

You could risk losing everything 😉

 

Much Love ❤

 

Jen
xo

 

 

 

 

Sisters I never had :D

A beautiful blog post by my two soul sisters, Pratyusha and Bhavya ❤ ❤ I love you girls!!! xoxo Distance doesn't mean anything when you have love and friendship ❤ ❤

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So here’s a special post by a guest blogger by Bhavya Mishra. 🙂
It’s a heartfelt rendition for the sisters!!!
This is nothing less than an award of love for me 😛
Love you loads honey bun. Always stay happy!!! Muahhh

Here’s the surprise for You Jennifer !!!!!! Keep your tissue papers ready Jen !! 😀
P.S. : Do check out their amazing and marvellous blogs 🙂

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Hello everyone.. Soooooo Pratyusha(P.. as i call her) asked me to write something for her blog months ago and being the lazy mess i am i kept her waiting for so long..(sorry for keeping you waiting and thank you being so patient with me love). Let’s get started.

Sisters.. i have read so many quotes about sisters and how precious they are.. i never really knew what it meant or how it felt to have a…

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#AtoZChallenge DAY22: V for VULNERABLE

Thanks to Sneha at Life As A Potpourri for asking me to be a guest blogger during the #A-Z Challenge ❤ 🙂 I am honored sweet Sneha!! 🙂

LIFE AS A POTPOURRI !!!

Day: #22 || Alphabet : || Theme: Emotions || Word: Vulnerable

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As you all know besides taking up the #AtoZChallenge one more goal I had in mind was to encourage guest posts on my blog some who are my existing blogger friends and others who are not bloggers but are good at writing. And am so happy I managed to have four guest blogs already.

Finally today is the last guest blog in this challenge and that is being done by my dear friend Jennifer from Courage Coach and she has taken up the emotion VULNERABILITY. Thank you so much for your valuable time and writing on my blog. Really appreciate it Jenni ❤ ❤

~~ VULNERABILITY ~~

“You can’t get to courage without walking through vulnerability first” ~Brené Brown

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3 Days, 3 Quotes, Day 2

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Welcome to Day 2 of Quotes with Jen  🙂  My friend and fellow blogger Anand at “Blabberwockying” has nominated me for this challenge.  Anand helps to organize Poetry Corner with 6 word entries each week with bloggers from around the world.  In the end these phrases create a beautiful poem which is very creative and fun to read.  Please feel free to visit his site and follow him.  Thank you Anand for this challenge.  Today I feel like using some humor so these are the quotes I am submitting, I hope you like them.

Challenge Rules:

  • Post three consecutive days.
  • You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  • Challenge three different bloggers per day.

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My nominees today are:

https://ametalk.wordpress.com/

https://poemhobby.wordpress.com/

https://anarmchairperfectionist.wordpress.com/

 

Much Love,

Jen
xo

3 Days, 3 Quotes, Day 1

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My friend and fellow blogger Anand at “Blabberwockying” has nominated me for this quote challenge.  Anand is a soft hearted person who writes many inspiring blogs and always signs off in his comments by saying Love and Light.  It’s so nice!  Please feel free to visit his site and follow him. Thank you Anand for this challenge 🙂

Challenge Rules:

  • Post three consecutive days.
  • You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  • Challenge three different bloggers per day.

 

Ego says “Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.”  Spirit says “Find your inner peace and then everything will fall into place.”  ~ Marianne Williamson

“To become a butterfly, you must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar” ~ Trina Paulus

“When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it’s bottomless, that it doesn’t have any resolution, that this heart is huge, vast and limitless.  You begin to discover how much warmth and gentleness is there, as well as how much space.” ~ Pema Chodron

 

My nominees today are:

https://darshith0000.wordpress.com/quotes-for-life/

https://shadowsinmidnight.wordpress.com/

https://chicwithmessybun.wordpress.com/

Much Love,

Jen
xo

Once a captive, now I’m free!

Anand is one of my fellow blogging friends from India who asks us to send in a 6 word phrase each week and he compiles them while creating this amazing poem from people all over the world. None of us know what the other person is writing but it always turns out so amazing! If you would like to check out his blog it is https://blabberwockying.wordpress.com/2015/12/01/once-a-captive-now-im-free/comment-page-1/#comment-9551
Thanks Anand! Love and Light ❤ 🙂

absolutely bunkum!

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Once a captive, now I’m free. 

Snow, doubts, smile, heart, horse, fun! 

Hold on; for one more day. 

No time to waste in formalities 

Sun and wind, burn and free! 

Be grateful, be thankful, be contented. 

I woke up to live life! 

Try to understand and love everyone. 

Words dancing at the dozen: halved 

Every night she dreams of travelling 

Lost love, too late for discovery. 

I wait for Wade to wave 

Hope they enjoy the perfect life 

He sulked alone until they conceded. 

These feelings I keep to myself 

Togetherness leads to actual mutual bonding 

I wish I could stop worrying 

Will it be longer or shorter? 

They knew there was no option 

Let us slay all negative notions

Loud as a fair dare darling!

No silence for my busy brain

And then, she was set free! 

Notes:

  • This is a group event. 23 entries were included this week. 
  • Entries are sent to my…

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My first Thanksgiving

A big thank you to Bhavya, aka chicwithmessybun ❤ You're amazing 🙂

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A day late with this post but still… it’s better late than never..right?? Anyways.. i want to share this with the world that happiness is found in the most unexpected places. I started this blog a few months back to express my work. It gave me happiness and still makes me happy every time i write a post and the response i get from all of you.. This blogging world introduced me to some interesting people and good friends.. and i want to mention a special blogger for keeping me strong in some very tough times recently. Jennifer Juneau… you’re a superhero.. whatever you went through this year is something you didn’t deserve but you’re a survivor and i know you’ll be more than fine. You’ve inspired me.. helped me to stay strong.. Thank you for always being there for me. You’re the sister i never had. you’re one of…

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