We were walking on a path through a beautiful green forest, and you confessed, “Sometimes I feel lost”
I held your hand and said, ” It’s ok, we all feel lost at certain times in our lives. Don’t give up, go North, and follow your North Star
When you get there, follow your heart in everything you do, find your passion, set goals, and achieve them
A life without cause is a life without effect
Live your life on purpose, and do what you truly love. Pay attention to everything and everyone around you, and happiness will find you
There’s a reason why you were named after a hurricane off the coast of Southern California
You’re both strong and wild…
Take these traits and know the possibilities are endless in this life. The whole world is open and waiting for you
Miracles happen every day. I still remember the day we met, definitely a miracle…
14,625. That’s how many steps it took for you to find me that day, so unexpectedly. Therefore, anything is possible if you just believe
Sometimes what hurts us is what heals us. Life can be hard but at the same time, it can teach us many things. Just like love
You taught me how to love and how to be loved. Love was the healer and the teacher. Life became brighter and better. Now I’m here for you”
That’s when I woke up…
In the morning, I saw your text, “I had a dream last night, I know what I want and it’s you. I’m coming North and I’ll arrive like a hurricane”
I smile to myself and think, isn’t life interesting, dreams really can come true
In the end, it all makes sense. The happiness of one becomes the joy of all…
Happy October everyone! ❤ I hope this month brings you positive vibes and cherished moments. Life is always changing, so we need to change with it to find our own happiness. Please enjoy this song by the wonderful Josh Groban, Don’t Give Up
“He who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived. ~ Chinese Proverb
In my book, “Winning While Losing: The Upside of Heartbreak” I talk about a coin having not only two sides, but three. Heads, tails, and the edge. The two sides represent two different points of view from two people opposing each other; heads and tails. However, the edge represents the truth, facts, or reality behind a situation that is often avoided, overlooked, or hidden. On the edge of truth or reality, are the reasons that run deeper than both points of view. Therefore, the possibility of gaining a new perspective is there to consider, but only when you have an open mind and heart, is when you can own your behaviors and the role you played in the relationship. I’m talking about accountability and responsibility. We are no longer insecure toddlers saying, “not me!” Or at least we shouldn’t be. After all, it’s the truth on that skinny little edge that will set you free, if you dare to go there.
Lessons Learned in 2021:
Do you know what’s interesting? You can’t invite something or someone new in your heart until you create the space for it. To do that means doing the work to heal from your past over a good amount of time, then letting it go for good
Stuffing the past inside never works; it causes toxic emotional constipation and that’s not fair to the next person involved because it always comes out later as an emotional explosion. Who wants that?
Be wise enough to know how important self-love and self-respect are and they will guide you on what to do to heal
If someone tries to play mind games, create doubts, have sneaky conversations, or show inconsistencies, RUN! Kenny Rogers was right all along
Continue setting boundaries. They protect your mind, heart, body, and soul. If someone gets angry with your boundaries, then all the more reason to have them
If you ever notice a man using you for your money, get out ASAP. That’s just pathetic, unattractive, and downright scary! Never be a sugar mama
Always remember, when words don’t match actions and they twist it to blame you, that’s called manipulation
When people are not accountable, that’s called gaslighting
When someone labels others crazy or mental, that’s called projection which means they are describing themselves, not the other person
It’s not wise to play with fire, it only takes one tiny match to burn the whole thing down. Unless you don’t care
The ones who give the impression of nothing, tells you everything
You have to learn when your part is over in someone’s story
This chapter is called MAKE ROOM
Relationships are not always meant to be forever, they are here for a reason, a season, and to teach us many lessons. Learn the lessons
Know what you need and want and go for it
Trust the Universe, it knows more than you realize…
Take your power back and live an empowering life
Some of the best advice I ever heard was this, “If she’s told you what she has been through, don’t put her through that again. If you do put her through it, you are selfish and not listening.”
Take note that some people are open books, and some people are illiterate
The wound is not your fault, but the healing is your responsibility
Don’t curse my scars when all they ever tried to do was heal me
Evaluate your scars and heal from the inside out
Mistakes are forgivable, patterns are not
Conversations in relationships need to have a resolution or compromise. Anger and aggression are toxic and ruin everything
Thriving in conflict is extremely unhealthy and toxic to anyone’s well-being
People let go when they are tired and they will no longer risk letting go of themselves
I am not required to set myself on fire to keep other people warm
I will not lose me to keep you
Effort and honesty are EVERYTHING…
There is nothing worse than self-betrayal. Listen to your intuition, it’s always right
Don’t trust everything you see, even salt looks like sugar; be very discerning. Ask questions
Every damn brick they try to throw at you, use it to stand on and use your voice
Never let them silence you or control you in any way shape or form
Be fearless and face the storm, lean in
Speak the truth, be courageous, set boundaries, give lots of self-care and self-love
I know my worth and I am honoring my spirit every single day
Own emotions, process them, and let them go. The path to true happiness
Get up and out of your comfy zone
Forgive yourself for not knowing what you know now
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself
Loyalty and honesty are never too much to ask for in a relationship, it’s normal
Burning a bridge isn’t always a bad thing, you can never go back to what hurt you
Sometimes you have to give up on people, not because you don’t care but because they don’t. Show some self-respect.
Anger taught me how to be calm
Aggression taught me how to speak up
Cruelty taught me self-kindness
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a serious red flag
When the past is still in the present, that’s another serious red flag
Unkind words about the past = a connection is still present and they won’t let go of the past, another serious red flag
Many red flags do not mean you are at a carnival, pay attention, they are dealbreakers
Look for green flags instead
Incessant whining, complaining, blaming is like living with a dysfunctional four-year-old that is stuck on repeat. No thanks.
Victim mentality is a lack of self-awareness which is annoying
When you are self-aware, you make the necessary changes in your life to move forward
Life is short
Setting healthy boundaries is self-protection and necessary in any relationship
Judging others reveals unhealed parts of yourself
It’s not my job to convince anyone to love me
You choose the behavior, you choose the consequences. That’s it.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time
You can’t be disrespectful and expect respect in return
Ignoring my intuition is self-betrayal; never again.
My inner peace is non-negotiable
The price you pay to avoid something will always be higher than the price you pay to face it head-on
Living in the past = living in denial. No chance for the present or future to come in. If you don’t let the past die, it won’t let you live today which translates to cheated opportunities and missed relationships
Flat out lying or lying by omission is the same destructive pinch that breaks trust
Hearing what someone says and seeing how they behave are two different things. Focus on the latter
Be accountable for your own shit, turn inward
Avoidance is for cowards
Entitlement and laziness are MAJOR turn-offs
It takes a strong person to ask for help. Be strong
The pain never leaves us, we have to leave the pain. Not everyone is capable of making this effort, even though it is necessary for any healthy relationship
The girl who takes care of everyone needs to be taken care of too. Don’t let anyone take advantage of you ever again
Besides, in a world where you can be anything, be kind
If it doesn’t feed your soul, then it’s time to go
Out with the old, in with the new, let it all go…
Onward and upward…
Amazing people are appearing and re-appearing in my life and my heart is so full of love and happiness ❤
Life is grand…
And just like the edge of the coin, the lessons and truth have set me free…
Thank you 2021!!!
The best is yet to come, let’s pop some champagne! ❤ Cheers ❤
** Hi everyone, how’s your October been? I am happy to say things are going GREAT for me and I am getting ready to write another book! Stay tuned and I appreciate the kindness and encouragement you’ve shown me all along. Have a listen to Adele’s new song Easy On Me and have a fantastic week! 🙂
Empty your heart, dear one
Release all the blockages and pain
Tell me everything
Untangle the pain and suffering
It’s interesting how messy things can get
How we keep packing one thing on top of another without realizing it
Unpack what you don’t need anymore
Years of accumulated emotions, unspoken words, lost opportunities, secrets, and guilt
They all hold us hostage and they are weighing you down my friend
You let it hurt, now let it go
Bleed it all out…
If you want to be free, learn the lessons
What is life trying to teach you right now
You may not know the answer yet, but in time you will
Dust off your heart and clean it up for new possibilities
Cracks from heartbreak are just that; cracks
You still have a pulse and blood pressure; you’re alive
Anything is possible…
Four chambers pump life into you every single day
Stop the decay and start the growth
Throw away the whip and wrap compassion around yourself instead
Slow down, listen to your heart and trust what it’s telling you
You can do this, you really can
Talk it out
Cry, scream, run, walk, dance, sing, write, draw, laugh
Do whatever it takes to empty your heart
Make space and fill it with love, compassion, peace, happiness, healing, gratitude, and forgiveness
Most of all, make room for those magical moments
For what is real, because that’s what life is all about
Open your eyes and relax
A “yes” or a “no” can change one’s life forever
It’s not your previous life or relationship you miss, it’s the routine
Get out of your head
And empty your heart…
**This blog is dedicated to my dear friend Danielle Lewis in North Carolina who like all of us, is learning how to empty her heart each and every day and she is doing a lovely job! Not only has she started her own healing journey, but she also created her own podcast called Mom’s Still Standing. Please be sure to subscribe to it on iTunes or Spotify. She even has me on there as a guest speaker! I think we can all relate to emptying our hearts at one time or another and just like how we spring clean at home, we need to do the same thing with ourselves. Have a great week everyone ❤
“And you? When will you begin that long journey into yourself?” ~Rumi
Just when you thought you were drowning, you were actually learning how to swim. Just when you thought you were falling, you were actually learning how to fly. Just when you thought something was ending, something new was beginning.
Sometimes in the midst of struggle and challenge is when you see what you are made of, how you survive and where the greatest lessons of all are found. When you are in the moment it can be pretty darn hard to see it this way, but speaking from experience, I know this to be true.
What does self-discovery mean to you?
In my own life, I’ve come to define self-discovery as many things but it all starts with taking the time for YOU. Such as going on a journey within, by yourself and for yourself. Becoming aware of your character and true potential, your wants, and needs, likes and dislikes. Knowing your values, setting boundaries and what you can tolerate in different life situations. Accepting everything about who you truly are, especially the imperfections. It’s about ownership of where you went wrong, learning life lessons, forgiveness of others and especially of yourself. It’s about finding your purpose; we all have one. In a way, self-discovery is also self-awareness.
When you know yourself, you are empowered. When you accept yourself, you are invincible.
The opposite of self-discovery is denial. Denying who you are to others and to yourself.
Many don’t know who they are or what they want, but somehow give unsolicited advice to others on how to live their lives or they tell lies. Unfortunately, this never ends well.
The photo above in this blog describes self-discovery so well. Sometimes we need to let go and peel away the layers that no longer serve us to get down to the good stuff of who we really are, who we were meant to be. If we want others to know who we are, we need to know ourselves first. How can we expect others to figure us out when we haven’t even tried to do that with ourselves? So how do we do it?
I’m not an expert, but one way I did it was through writing and journaling. To be able to do this, you need to be on your own without any distractions. Another way I went on my self-discovery journey was through solo travel. When you are traveling on your own, you depend on yourself 100% and you quickly find out how to trust your instincts and who you are. Thirdly, there is an amazing questionnaire designed by Patrick Betdavid that you can download and fill out on your own one quiet Sunday afternoon in your happy place. It might be at the beach, the cottage, or wherever you feel most comfortable. Be honest as you do this because that’s the right answer. Yes, it takes time but that’s what it takes. You’ll come out of it a new and improved person and how awesome is that?
When you decide to go on the journey of self-discovery, the benefits are positively endless and amazing, such as bringing more happiness, fulfillment, freedom, and opportunities into your life. It can be a bumpy road but it’s definitely a road worth exploring simply because you’re worth it!
This is the purpose of the Project-Self blogs, like this one, Self-Betrayal, and Self-Care. To raise awareness in ourselves because everything starts and ends with US! It’s easy to blame others but that only keeps people stuck. If we want to evolve in life, then we need to take responsibility for ourselves in what we say and do.
Let’s be kind to ourselves, stop beating ourselves up…we are enough.
I invite you on your own journey of self-discovery…happy travels 🙂
Much Love ❤
**Copies of “Winning While Losing: The Upside of Heartbreak” are available at online bookstores worldwide and at the FriesenPress Bookstore.
Happy 1st Birthday to Winning While Losing: The Upside of Heartbreak!!!
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Well, here we are, exactly one year later after my book release and I am SO amazed at the positive response!! Each day teaches me the power of words, the power of positivity, the power of friends and family, the power of love and courage, the power of resilience and determination, the power of empowerment, the power of moving forward; even if you are crawling you are still moving. The power of taking action, the power of reframing your situation so that it serves you, the power of self-awareness, self-care, self-respect, self-love, self-compassion, and ultimately, the power of forgiveness which is the toughest lesson of all, but I am living proof it can begin with the right attitude.
Judging others, blaming or being a victim is the easy way out and keeps you stuck. Taking responsibility for your own life is why we are all here and sets you free. It’s been a process of lessons learned and to this day I am learning even more while making mistakes but this means I am evolving as a person and I am extremely grateful for the amazing friends I have. My kids have seen me through thick and thin and I could have never done this without you guys, I love you from the bottom of my heart ❤ All my gratitude to you both!!
Today is giveaway day and I’ll be contacting 2 lucky winners with love and gratitude ❤ Thank you to everyone for all your huge support, and never forget…
~ Dare to live courageously…
Love Always ❤
** Copies are available for purchase at all online bookstores worldwide and at the FriesenPress Bookstore. Thank you 🙂
I used to take the back door of my mind to get inside myself
Logic and endless mind games used to play with me there
Some days I would win, other days I would lose
I always felt like something was missing, but what?
One day I realized I wasn’t walking the right way
So I tried the front door, through my heart instead
That’s where I felt all the emotions and where I really started to live
That’s where I learned so many life lessons, at the heart of being present
You can run but you can’t hide
That’s how the heart works so it can be healed
Embrace, forgive and love yourself so more doors can open in your life
Feel those emotions, all of them
Of course, it will be painful;
But would you rather have short-term pain or long-term suffering?
Sadness is inevitable, but that’s what opens doors and knocks down walls
Better to be temporarily sad than numbing all emotions, good and bad
Bitterness and resentment only keeps people stuck and I wasn’t one of them
As I started to feel all my emotions
I started the grieving process
I felt my heart open wide and began the healing process from the inside out
My mind calmed down and I let my heart take over, trusting this process
I lost count of how many times I fell down
But what I can tell you is that I got back up every single time
Yes it was hard and I have scars to prove it but that didn’t stop me
My focus was on feeling better and to do this was through personal growth and development
Not through avoidance or distraction
For the record, I still fall down these days because I am still learning and that’s ok
With an open door policy and smaller walls to climb
I allowed my support system into my heart
Some days they took over when I couldn’t do it for myself
Gratitude is a small word for such a huge act of love
Each stage of grief was a wild emotional roller coaster ride, but a necessary one
Three years later, I am a new woman
I am not the same person who used to take the back door through my mind
Now I choose to open the front door of my heart with ownership, responsibility, and happiness
All this because I found the courage and chose to feel it to heal it ❤
You can too…
Much Love ❤
**P.S: All my gratitude to everyone who has read or is reading my book “Winning While Losing: The Upside of Heartbreak” It warms my heart to hear such wonderful feedback, especially when it helps another person who is going through any loss. We are all connected and you’re not alone. To pick up a copy of your own, please visit your favorite online bookstore worldwide or my publisher’s website FriesenPress for several available versions. Have a wonderful weekend everyone ❤
I am in love with this book “The Alchemist” and the author Paulo Coelho. If you haven’t read it yet, you must. One of my close friends suggested it to me and I am forever grateful that he did 😉
The story is full of life lessons, inspiration and beautiful wisdom for all. It’s about a young shepherd boy named Santiago who travels from Spain to the deserts in Egypt in search of a treasure buried in the Pyramids. During his journey he meets various characters like a Gypsy woman, a man who calls himself a king and an alchemist who all seem to direct Santiago in the direction of his goal without knowing what that treasure even is.
“The Alchemist” is a story about searching for happiness on the outside world when really the journey and treasure takes place within our hearts. You can travel the world or work in different companies searching for happiness but in the end, it’s wherever your heart is directing you, to your passions; that’s where you will find your treasure. I found this book to give hope when wanting to transform a dream into a reality and how important it is to listen to our hearts, especially when it comes to love. One of my favorite parts is when the alchemist tells Santiago that before a dream is realized, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way, not because it is evil but so we can master the lessons as we move closer to the dream, just as the darkest hour of the night comes before the dawn.
The Alchemist reminds me of life coaching because there are many questions we ask ourselves about life and how to improve it. We search for the answers externally when really all along the solutions are always within us.
Therefore, there’s an Alchemist in All of us ❤
“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure” ~Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
Okay seriously, life is full of lessons whether you want to learn from them or not. When you do learn, you expand your personal growth and development and make necessary changes so they don’t happen again. If you don’t learn the life lessons, they will keep happening over and over until you do. They won’t go away on their own. That’s just the way it is…sigh.
No matter what age you are, something happened to you that affected your life and how you reacted to it changed you. It didn’t kill you, it made you stronger. But what if you could have a conversation with your younger self and give advice that would save you time and grief or give you confidence and perseverance in various areas of your life? I know I’ve thought about this and I’d like to share what I know for sure… now.
You are 21 years young now and are studying very hard to become a nurse. You have chosen a career path that is helpful and compassionate which aligns with who you are and your core values in life. Yes studying is hard, working in the hospital is hard but never give up because you are on the right path; you’ve got this. Know that every day you will touch a life or a life will touch yours, this is the beauty in nursing.
What if I told you when you graduate you will move to another country to work and travel? Not just once but twice. Nursing can open many doors for you and later on there is another big opportunity coming up that you cannot say no to, in Qatar.
Don’t always expect to be acknowledged and appreciated for all the hard work you do, people are tired and busy in their own worlds but in your heart, just know you are doing your best and in the end, you will be rewarded by Him. Know your own self-worth because if you think you are cheap, people will see and treat you as cheap. Try not to control every outcome, just relax and enjoy the ride because you have so much ahead of you, a world of experiences that will blow your mind!
Life Coaching is in your future which is another beautiful helping profession and by walking this path, you learn so much about yourself in the process and it’s an automatic win-win for you and your clients. You will be so inspired, you will really love this but it takes work to get it going. Don’t give up.
Relationships are complicated but a very big part of your life Jen. Friendships are to be treasured and respected by both sides otherwise, it’s not worth it. Everywhere you go, you will meet new friends and connect well with them for life because of who you are. You have many amazing friends who inspire you so hang on tight they are your rocks during your toughest moments. Don’t forget to be there for them too and love them with all your heart. Sadly, one of your closest friends will be diagnosed with cancer and cannot beat it. However, having known her, changes your perspective on life for the better because you learn to appreciate the little things, slow down and look within yourself for answers to life’s complicated questions. You have all the solutions inside you, just dig deep because they’re all there. You feel a deep sense of gratitude for having known her and you miss her.
Family is another important part of your life and you need to show your appreciation for everything they do for you. Nobody’s perfect and everyone is doing the best they can, just like you Jen. Perfection is a dangerous thing and not even possible so let it go. Imperfections are what make people beautiful including you. It all depends on your perspective, try to look at them as your gifts. Your entire family loves you unconditionally, you love them too and you get along with everyone.
Ah, romance, romance. You have met some really nice guys that showed interest in you so far and you have been interested in some of them. But Jen, you need to have more self-confidence you need to love yourself more. Learn how to be assertive and stand up to the ones who don’t treat you right and hold hands with the ones who do. Don’t get blindsided by flattery, take it for what it is which is sweet. Not every guy will understand your kind heart but that’s ok, it’s not your job to convince him of it. Never let the good guy get away, easier said than done. Romantic involvement is complex and fleeting. Don’t settle for someone, make sure your man adores you, protects you, makes time for you, has the same values as you, has your back on everything and knows how to use a hammer! This will save you a ton of frustration…
What you really want is someone who makes you smile, is proud of you, supports you and inspires you, is emotionally there for you and treats you like his queen. Not a man who drains you or takes advantage of your good nature or abandons you. He will love you with his whole heart by making you his number one priority and not let his external environment control how he feels or acts around you.
He must know his own core values and who he truly is on the inside otherwise he is a chameleon adjusting to every external environment, not a man.
If you are looking for a chameleon, go to Costa Rica.
Make sure he never interrupts you or puts you down in front of other people; he should be singing your praises instead. You are a fine catch young lady and never forget that! 😉
You put everyone’s needs ahead of your own and deep down, you want your needs met too and why not? People pleasing and putting yourself last is killing you without you even realizing it. You need to take better care of yourself so you have the ability to take care of others. Everywhere you go you are a caretaker. Learn to set some boundaries for yourself otherwise people will walk all over you as if you were a doormat. “No” is a complete sentence, remember that my love. And whatever you do, don’t let the opinions of others influence you to the point of doing nothing. You’re better than that.
Be very mindful of selfish people and narcissists in your life. They are your biggest threat because they give subtle red flags and are very good at charming you. Take off those rose colored glasses so you can actually see the color red. They are only interested in themselves so don’t kid yourself into thinking they have something to offer you. They are takers and you are a giver so you are vulnerable in this situation. Be very, very careful.
I know you can’t see it now but your heart of gold will fall in love with one man and two children over the years. Unfortunately heartbreak is in your future but this tragedy has its silver lining. You experience two sides of the same coin but you are a trooper, a real warrior. Facing these various betrayals are the biggest stressors you will go through but it’s not what happens to us in life that determines who we are, it’s how we cope and react to it that counts and you have excellent coping skills. Like grace under fire. You are not a victim so don’t play that role, ever. You might feel like you are all alone in this but you’re not. You are stronger than you realize and you have God in your corner. This is a time for self-compassion and practicing self-care, finally. You have put this off long enough Jen so time to pay attention to yourself. It’s self-discovery time. Be a good example for your kids because they are always watching and taking notes. Learn the lessons here and don’t worry so much, everything is going to be okay.
You really need a vacation, you should plan one.
Writing blogs for you is a positive emotional outlet and an incredibly important way of dealing with stress because getting your emotions out on paper or a screen is cathartic. A wonderful healing tool for all. Not only are you helping yourself but also helping others by letting them know we are all in this together, nobody is alone. An amazing world of bloggers is out there and each person has something beautiful to offer, appreciate each and every one of them from your heart because they are probably fighting a battle of their own you know nothing about. You learn to write your way out of this betrayal and when writing the story of your life Jen, don’t let anyone else hold the pen, own it. You get to write your own ending. On the other side of this fear is freedom so hang in there, you’re doing great. You are finding your inner voice and are finally starting to use it. Better late than never girl!
Exercise has always been a priority in your life but during this time you must keep moving more than ever. The physical, mental, emotional and spiritual benefits are endless. Exercise helps to get the negative energy out, clear your mind, release those endorphins and make you feel empowered again. You meet more friends along the way who support you and you can’t imagine your life without them because they are just so fun to be with! You learn new activities like Zumba and PiYo which you even become addicted to!
As you make your way through the pain with your kids, your vision becomes clearer and you slowly get your strength back, thanks to your family and friends here and all around the world. Connection has empowered you to stand up for what you believe in and fight for your rights my little warrior. You are getting to know and love yourself more and more each and every day, the butterfly is emerging. One of the greatest lessons you can learn is to practice gratitude, forgiveness and surrender. These are the silver linings in the dark clouds. You will make it to the other side Jen, you are almost there so don’t give up now. Music and lyrics inspire you and give you energy. There’s one song that’s about standing for something and getting stronger which is exactly what you need right now. You need to stand for you. Share this song with your amazing friends and in the meantime…ROAR!
Dealing with change and finding the positive silver lining hidden within our experiences are tough life lessons to be learned. It sounds pretty straight forward but when you are really in it, it takes every ounce of energy and focus to actually do it. Easier said than done right? Sometimes it feels like these life lessons and difficult decisions are being launched like tennis balls out of a cannon one after the other with no break in between to catch our breath while we use our racquet as a shield.
From what I have seen with many people, myself included, letting go or surrendering to what is can be the hardest life lesson to swallow because it’s scary and unknown. Should I stay or should I go? Should I control the situation or just accept it as it is? Will I choose to be a victim or a victor? We fight to hang on and we fight to let go. It’s that constant back and forth rally in our minds that keeps the Wimbledon inner game of tennis alive.
Is letting go giving up? Not at all, it’s actually quite the opposite.
Caroline Myss wrote something that shook me to my core when I read it and I will share it with you. When someone says “I want to get out of this circumstance, but I’m too afraid.” She is betraying everything in her heart. She’s making choices that are harming her and that’s why she’s hurting. Her intuition is trying to tell her that. When your life begins to harm you, know that you have taken a detour from your true path. You are no different from the people who hurt you. People know when they have betrayed themselves because the little voice inside says “You’re still with that person; why didn’t you leave?” Your intuition speaks the truth that you don’t want to hear. It also says “You’ve done everything you can so it’s time to let go and surrender.”
Wow. “I am no different from the people who hurt me.” That was a huge light bulb moment and reading that was enough to make me want to let go. It’s bad enough that someone or something is hurting you and by ignoring your own heart, you are hurting yourself on top of it. Double punishment hurts. I love Caroline Myss and her perspectives.
It’s been a tough match so far, that inner game of tennis is almost finished and silence is everywhere. What will your next move be? Time to focus, your opponent Fear is about to serve.
What a perfect opportunity to discover a new and unexpected strategy in your game. By releasing someone so they can be where they need to be, do what they want to do and be with whomever they want is actually an act of love and courage on your part. Trust and respect yourself and let them go. Let them be the destructive one, you be the kind one. In that exact moment, you become more peaceful and free and you create the much needed space in your life for bigger and better things to come flowing in. It leads you to the next. Ah, finally the silver lining; acceptance and happiness. And the crowd goes wild…
We all have our “stuff” we are dealing with but that doesn’t mean we can’t find our joy along the way. Even a caged bird can find something to sing about. And when you do find the courage to surrender to change and let go, you will fly like a free bird and think “why didn’t I do this sooner?” Not only that, the tennis balls will stop flying at you and you will have victoriously won the match.
Congratulations…Love always wins. At least at this game.
“The longest journey you will make in your life is from your head to your heart.” ~ Gary Zukav