Looking Back While Looking Ahead


I read somewhere that you should never look back on things that happened but only look back to see how far you’ve come.  I would like to add that looking back can be a positive experience if your intention is to find the life lesson or silver lining hiding within the situation.

“No experience is wasted…everything in life is to grow you up.”  ~ Oprah Winfrey

Looking back, it’s been one year ago today, October 27th, 2015 when I signed my divorce papers.  Since then I’ve done a lot of soul-searching, writing, learning, and personal growth and development.  The year 2015 was the most difficult time of my life and in 2016, I needed to make it one of the best years of my life.  Looking ahead, I just finished writing my first book which was cathartic.  My new start began with my trip to India in January 2016 and it was the best way to push the restart button on my new life.

I’ve definitely come a long way in a short amount of time.

I am currently in the editing phase with my publishing company and I am expecting to have my book released in early 2017 which I am crazy excited about!  It will be available everywhere online, more details on that to come later on.  I wanted to share this news and blog about it to let you know it’s coming and give you some background information at the same time.

This book is about how I dealt with my separation and divorce and how I overcame adversity by self-reflection and finding the silver lining in my crumbling life events.  It’s not a book of venting or blaming.  It’s about my journey to recovery, accepting my own responsibilities and how I kept a positive outlook and learned some life lessons while living through the most difficult time of my life.  For every chapter, I describe the before, during and after phase by including my reflections now and a blog I wrote on my website in real time with the real emotions of what I was going through in 2015 and 2016.  Therefore, these chapters are the real and personal stories behind the blogs I wrote, alongside my reflections now.

We all fall down in life and I admit I have fallen many times which is painful and hurts so much.  It’s normal to stay down for a while but eventually, you need to get back up and face reality.  This requires some action steps and commitment. But for some, this is where the rubber fails to hit the road.  They may know what they need to do but they can’t even begin to even try.  I know how hard that is because there were days I felt the same way, but I realized that by keeping an open mind and open heart I may fall again and what’s important is finding the strength to keep rising with an incredible support system.

If you’ve ever had a relationship end in a traumatic way and change your world or if you are in the middle of one right now, rest assured you are not alone, I can sympathize and empathize with you and I am by your side.   My intention is to let you know you’re not alone and you can get through it.

Even though every story or scenario might be different when it comes to any type of loss in life, the one thing we all share is our emotions and the grieving process we all go through. That’s how we’re all connected and if we can support one another during our most difficult times, this I know for sure is the best way to survive.

It definitely worked for me, I didn’t do this alone.

Once you have the support you need, you can begin the healing process by taking some responsibility for your own actions because let’s face it, it takes two people to make or break a relationship.  This might come as a surprise to some because when there is a breakup, one person may be more to blame than the other.  This might be true to some extent but the other person definitely plays a role in that relationship which led to its demise whether they want to own it or not.  Life is a journey of imperfections, and trials and tribulations.  Some days, weeks or years are better than others but let’s not forget we’re all human.

Not robots, not perfect and not superior.

I would like to share some words by author Brené Brown that helped carry me through some of my toughest times and I hope they help you too.

Manifesto of the Brave and Brokenhearted

“There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fearmongers
Than those of us who are willing to fall
Because we have learned how to rise

With skinned knees and bruised hearts;
We choose owning our stories of struggle,
Over hiding, over hustling, over pretending.

When we deny our stories, they define us.
When we run from struggle, we are never free.
So we turn toward truth and look at it in the eye.

We will not be characters in our stories.
Not villains, not victims, not even heroes.

We are the authors of our lives.
We write our own daring endings.

We craft love from heartbreak,
Compassion from shame,
Grace from disappointment,
Courage from failure.

Showing up is our power.
Story is our way home.
Truth is our song.
We are the brave and brokenhearted.
We are rising strong.”

I feel proud for sharing my story with all of you in my upcoming book and I appreciate all of your love and support.


Much Love ❤


47 thoughts on “Looking Back While Looking Ahead

  1. Congratulations on your book, and your new life, Jen. Out of the ashes rise the Phoenix? It must be possible, and you have demonstrated that, not only does life go on, but it can be great and rewarding. Thanks for sharing this, and I look forward to the publication of your book.


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  2. Yeah.we learn from past’s expdriences so we do not ignore our past.good news dear jenni !! Dt ur new books r publishing.i m waiting for.say my regards to respected Brene Brown.ur lines r so much sweet n wonderful.

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  3. Oh … my … God … O_o … Jen, I am lost for words. First of all, a huge hug and congratulations from me on writing your book successfully and on the brink of publication! I can’t wait to order it and read it right away! The reason behind it is heart-breaking but the way you look back at it, with a positive outlook and turning it into something that will touch the heart of millions is simply awesome, darling, hats off to you! ❤ You are a strong, inspiring and brave young lady whom all of us have the blessing to be acquainted with, Jen ❤ Don't let the muggles get you down! ❤ All the best, sweetheart! Stay blessed ❤

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  4. Sometimes I wish we could just go for coffee and a chat- but reading your inspirational blogs from across the world is the next best thing. I love your outlook on difficult things. I am so happy for you about your book. That is an amazing achievement. x

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    • Thank you dearly Shea, your comments mean so much to me 😍🌹 I also wish we could have a coffee and chat that would be so great. I really appreciate your support for my book and my blog. Lots of love xo ❤❤


  5. U r absolutely right ,my dear.up n down in life ,wonds n healing is positive parts of life.”we are brave and brokenhearted;we are rising strong..”most impressive lines of Brene Brown”.in waiting ur publishing book.

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