When there’s too much noise around you, that cute quiet voice within goes unnoticed.
I read an interesting and quirky article written by life coach Martha Beck and wanted to give my take on it for all of you.
We have two voices that try to talk to us which are the logical ones such as parents, teachers, society and the other voice which is the wise primordial self. It’s hard to choose between the two most of the time because of our impressions of them.
Logical voice is named Fang and is very business-like, well dressed, organized and on top of everything. He’s very opinionated carries a Blackberry and has an impressive resumé. The wise voice is named Buddy who wears shorts and a tank top with a butterfly tattoo on his back. Buddy has a great smile and will hug you when you feel down. Buddy’s resume is brief and has doodle art of squirrels on the side.
Who would you listen to?
When people say they want to find their “inner voice” it’s usually because they’re already listening to a loud, logical and convincing one; Fang. But does it lead to fulfillment? There’s another wise voice knocking that wants you to be happy, Buddy. Fang thinks Buddy is weird but you really want to trust Buddy anyway. You feel something in common with Buddy but you just can’t put your finger on it.
Voices of social conditioning manifests itself as a stream of thoughts in the head where wisdom often shows up as emotions or physical sensations in the body. Ever had that gut feeling? That’s Buddy trying to get your attention. When something is wrong for you, you’ll feel constriction like knots in your body. The wise choice unties those knots and makes you feel comfortable and light again.
Fang on the other hand is creating fear shouting “I’m right, do it my way or else!” or “You will fail” or “You don’t deserve it!” Meanwhile there sits smiling Buddy nice and calm and relaxed taking deep breaths just waiting for you to join him. Once you join him you are quiet and still and can finally tune in. Wisdom is stronger than fear but only when you choose it.
Maybe you could tell Fang; “Yes I am worthy of this and if I fail the world won’t end and I’ll try something else.” Fang will be upset for sure but with every choice like this your wisdom grows stronger and you can begin to ignore Fang so you can get out and play with Buddy. He seems so interesting anyway.
Here’s your homework:
Think of a difficult decision or situation you are in right now that’s been keeping you up at night 😉 Ask yourself these three questions.
- What would calm do now?
- What would peace do now?
- What would relaxation do now?
This not only helps to open your mind but most of all your heart in order to find solutions. The more often you ask these questions the more energy you feel which is your own wisdom. When you feel the tension loosening up then you know you are on the right path heading in the right direction; the wise one.
And that’s what your inner Buddy would do.
By tuning in to your voice within, you not only choose wisdom as your advisor, you make this way of choosing your new way of life.
Happy Valentine’s Day Every Buddy ❤
Much Love As Always,
Jen
xo
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